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writes: I have a new guy I have been dating for about two months. Everything is going great. I Love him so much and he says he does too. He treats me well and does all the things a woman would love from his man. The only problem is I miss him more and want to see him more often but he always seems to be busy. We meet once in a week, during the evening on weekends and I am the one who usually asks to see him. Whenever I ask to see him within the week or daytime during weekends he says he is busy. The reasons he gives are sometimes not convincing, though other times I believe him. Am thinking of stopping to ask him to see me and only wait for him to suggest, and also keeping my life busy with other things. However from what I know of him, I foresee a situation where his pride will not allow him to ask to see me often, even when he misses me, and the relationship breaking down as result. I have spoken to him about how I feel but his response is something like "I just have to understand" his life. Am finding it hard thoughAm getting frustrated.Am I asking for too much attention?Could there be something wrong with our relationship? Whats the best way to handle such a situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): You know it hasn't been that long and it seems like you are seeing each other quite a bit. The thing that bothers me about what you have written is that it is you, that usually asks to see him. Maybe I'm oldfashioned but in my experience the men usually like to be in control of that a bit. The fact that he does see you when you want him too is good. I think you should get busy with other things enjoy the frequency you have and if he increases it that's great and if it reduces and you are seeing less of eachother or he doesn't initiate meetups then that might be the time to be a little more demanding. But you asked if you were being a little needy? I think perhaps yes and whilst it is good that he is complying a lot the more you demand the more frustrated both you and he will become which isn't a good start to any relationship.
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reader, rainbow1  +, writes (27 August 2009):
One thing that is very wrong is you are always the one to initiate meeting.It sounds like he sees you when he has nothing else to do.I would not text him again . wait for him. I really do believe if a man wants you he will contact you. I assume you have slept with him so i sugest when you next meet, its actually out of the house and go to the cinema or something, then you will know if he is still interested.. he knows you like him and maybe he is feeling a little smothered
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