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writes:I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?"Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and heartbreak in the world?God! I want answers that I know I will never have! I know I am not alone with these feelings! But....WHY? Reply to this Article
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reader, InvisibleMe  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 If there wasnt any bad in the world then there wouldnt be any good.. everything would be just like that movie pleasentville.. watch it and yeah i believe everything happens for a reason because all of those bad things lead up to a good thing and if it wasnt for one little thing like stubbing your toe then everything right now would be different. Ps I HATE KARMA.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (2 January 2010):
Brooklyngirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for additional responses! I believe that what doesn't kill us, definitely makes us stronger!
Man! I must be really, really strong! LOL....
Thanks again
~BG~
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 January 2010):
 In my opinion, we are here to learn from experiences, mistakes, interactions both good and bad, and ideally work through issues to refine and enhance our spirit/soul/self. (insert whatever term you like - or dont if U think I sound flaky lol - no skin off my nose :-) Whilst in the midst of turmoil tho, it can be incredibly difficult to see the bigger picture, much less actually appreciate the opportunity for growth that adversity brings to us. It is usually way way way after an event that we can look at it with different eyes and see that despite all the crap attached, something good did somehow, in someway, come out of it. However, hardship does present us with challenges, and as much as we think they just out right suck sometimes and can't understand in the moment why we are experienceing such pain, ..the truth is that in most instances we do eventually learn to move on, we do learn to rise up again, ..and when we do that, we do it because we have come to new revelations or levels of acceptance, tolerance, forgivenes, etc, ..and therefore we have grown as people. We have refined our spirit, our essence. If we encounter the same scenario again, chances are if we learnt the first time around, we will be equipped with the 'tools' (attributes) and inner fortitude to approach in the most productive manner possible under the circumstances.Something I try to tell myself (with varying degree's of effect) when I feel like the sky is falling, ...is that nothing is permanent, including the negative feelings that I know will, like all else, eventually pass. When I can keep this mindset, I might still sit there tormented that I am feeling them, but also with the inner knowing that one day it will all make sense (even if i cant for the life of me see it at that time), that I will prevail, and that what I can take positively from it in the long run will be the reason WHY! I know I have come at this from an angle focusing on adversity that may seem negative, but, hmm, dunno, it just felt in this moment like the right approach. I hope I have directed it in the angle which prompted your question. :-)
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reader, The Answer to all your agony +, writes (1 January 2010):
It's like collecting data, gathering evidence, collecting surveys or asking questions to gain knowledge. It's preparation for something that will happen to us, and If you are not paying enough attention to all significant events that had happened to your previous experience, you will get lost and will definitely have a hard time explaining things in Why did it happen to you..and you will be asking what is/are the reasons it happened..JUST LIKE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW..
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (31 December 2009):
Brooklyngirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your responses! You all had really good things to say. The bottom line, I guess is That without pain, we wouldn't appreciate the joy in life.
I will continue to appreciate the good times and try to learn from the bad times!
Happy New Year, Everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): I used to spend ages asking myself WHY? I went round and round in circles, and never found any answers.
You say you believe everything happens for a reason, and I do too. So, the fact that we have no definite answers as to what the reason is, maybe there is a reason for that also? Maybe we are not meant to know the reasons just yet. Or maybe we are never to know.
I have found it easier to try and find personal meaning in everything that happens to me. Even if something bad happens, I try to find a purpose, a lesson hidden there somewhere. Rather than try to understand everything, I try to understand only that which I can influence: myself and my own life. It makes things more manageable!
Bad things do happen, and there is much pain and suffering in the world. But I think we can choose how we view it all, and what we do about it. Perhaps we can't make a huge difference, but we can smile at a stranger. We can offer comfort to someone who is upset. We can tell someone how much we care about them. Small things, but they still add some happiness into the world, even though it is on a smaller scale.
Maybe we just need to try and accept that we may never know, and do the best we can regardless. It is maddening, I know! But the best is all we can do. xx
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (27 December 2009):
Brooklyngirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses! I guess the "Why" was rhetorical...I know no one can give me an explanation! Older Sister....you make a lot of good points! Thanks for the insight!
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reader, Danya  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Some questions we don't have answer for. Its just like this, things happend you keep ask why why and No answer. This is the world, I always say: the world doesn't make sense.
Just think of the good thing in all of this, when you feel pain you learn some thing.
sorry i wish if i could answer your why,
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