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writes:Valentine's Day is nearly ere. my ex girlfriend and myself r getting so close on our friendship, she wants me to buy her a Valentine's Day card and gift. and she wants to spend Valentine's Day with me.5 week's apart and today at the trafford centre i made a joke " i was gonna buy u a Valentine's Day card " she said " your not? i'm buying u 1 " i said " u want me to buy u 1? " she said " yeah of course y not " 5 week's have passed. she's makeing plans to move back into my moms with me as a friend. we sleep together. we spend every day together. i pick her up from work i take her home or into town where we walk and talk and laff.i pick her up in the morning if she's at her brother's. she sometimes stays over at my house sometimes. we have fun together it's like where 2gether but not if u get what i mean?i've seen her everyday since saturday night she stayed over sat, sun, mon and she's sleeping at her brothers tonight tomoz i think she's staying ere. and saturday night she want's to have a drink at my moms house with her mate sherri and herself and me. she's makeing sherri go home in a cab and she's staying ere with me.she told me i've got 2 drink. because she will b drink 2 and so will her mate. i told her i would. i love spending time with my ex it's like she's my best friend ever and i can tell her anything plus i get 2 have sex with her.we started being friends 2 week's after us splittin and we been sleeping with each over for the last 2 week's only done it 3 times. and i've been down on her twice but she's stayed over like 10 times in the past 3 week's.my ex told me she doesn't wanna boyfriend and i told her i don't wanna girlfriend. i'm happy with our arangement of us f**king it mean's i don't have 2 go and find someone else to f**k.what do u think of all this? do u think she still wants me in her life like a lover but doesn't want me as a boyfriend incase she meets someone else?every time i drop her of at home she always says " come in " always says it.she told me she loves me the other night i told her i love her 2. i'm gonna buy her a Valentine's Day card and gift. and i'm gonna put some nice words in the card i'm not gonna go crazy like i did for her birthday card (5 pounds) and xmas card (10 pounds) but i like spending every time with my ex does that mean i'm not over her?i think i'm over her but people keep saying your not over her but i think i am. how can i tell if i'm over my ex or not?how can i tell if my ex is over me?
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (17 January 2007):
I Waited For The One is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for your advice but i'm not going to brake anything i want a kid i'm nearly 25 years old and only had 1 serious girlfriend and my ex is it. i want a kid my ex told me the other week before we started sleeping 2gether she was 2 young blah blah blah. and when we sleep 2gether she told me i don't have 2 wear protection. but if we both do sleep with other we have 2. that's the agreement we have.and now she's talking about haveing a kid like she still wants 1 more than anything.i love spending time with my ex. i want her 2 move back into my mom's with me my ex is 20 years old. she's got 2 find herself a new place and i told her if she is cant find anyone 2 live with i will anytime. she told me her mate is moveing out of her flat in march but my ex doesn't know if her mate will get back with her ex yet.thanks again.i've always wanted a kid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): wooooooo there kid, hold your horses.
kid? noooo, for a start you dont sound very old. having a kid aint wise. secondly..if your not in a stable loving relationship then dont be a child into the world. a child isnt just the fashion accesory that she thinks it is, its a lot of hard work and will dominate your life for the next 20 years!!
i suggest you give yourself a lot of space between you and this girl.. i mean lots of space. your say your not in a relationship yet shes with you every day telling you she loves you? thats just not right. and neither is her wanting a kid so young. live your lives a little.
seriously take a brake from her, youve been in each others hair all the tme and youve not had a chance to split up properly. so take a brake, see your mates..avoid her for a bit. work out what it is you really want..f*ck buddies isnt the way to bring a child into the world...it has to be a long lasting,loving,supportive relationship
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (17 January 2007):
I Waited For The One is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondo i still feel like kissing and wanting her everytime i'm around her?
sometimes not all the time it depends if i'm horny or not.
does it hurt to be around her = no!!
when she stays over the house all i wanna do is shag.
but sometimes she doesn't.
i've told my ex how i feel she told me she will always love me but there's no us no more. which i'm fine about.
she doesn't ever wanna get back with me but is talking of haveing a baby with me.
she was talking about babys this morning in the car she said " as long as i've got money for rent, pub & baby " i will b happy but in my eyes the pub doesn't excite me so i told her " rent, baby " will be my choice. she agreed but like she said " u need some space on your own sometimes " i told her i'm not much of a pub person and if we did have 1 2gether i would look after the kid if she wanted to goto the pub.
thanks for advice
i'm gonna buy her a valentines card & gift and spend the day with her. any excuse to spend another day with her.
i always say nice things 2 her & she does the same to me. when where alone she cuddles up 2 me it's nice always. but if someone is coming she moves away.
when where in bed she loves me to cuddle her till she gotos to sleep and kiss her.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 How can you tell she is your "ex?" It sounds like you are still in a relationship to me. I don't know what to make of all that's going on with you two, but she sure doesn't sound like an "ex" to me.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 January 2007):
 What is she playing at? It's totally wrong of her to expect a Valentines Day card from an ex boyfriend unless she still has feelings for you. First you need to work out if you're over her. Does it still hurt to be around her? Do you think about kissing and touching her when you're together. If the answer to these is yes then you're not over her. If you are over her however start to put up some boundaries. DO NOT buy her a valentines day card. It'll send the wrong message. If you are still in love with her you need to ask her how she feels. Tell her you're getting mixed messages with valentines day and how you're open to getting back together if thats what she wants? Hope this helps.
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