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Everyone says I'm Beautiful and skinny. I just feel fat and ugly!

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Question - (18 June 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 July 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, *elplessgirl writes:

My boyfriend is always telling me I'm beautiful to him no matter what. Alot of people I know tell me I'm pretty, beautiful, skinny, etc.. but I can't help but feeling fat and ugly, is there something wrong with me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009):

you have body dismorphia, you need help.

thats the first stages of anrixia

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

Nothings wrong with you i feel that way all the time my mom and friends all say im skinny and have no fat what so ever but i always feel like all my fat that should be in other places of my body all sank to my stomach.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009):

Do you find yourself needing compliments because you hate how you look, yet hating compliments because you don't believe them and don't know how to respond to them? But if someone doesn't say something everytime you try to look nice, you feel as though you don't? Yet even when they do say you do, and don't feel as though you do?

Do you let men disrepsect you.. say things to you and touch at you eventhough you know they shouldn't be, but you still feel better with the attention in some ways, because you need that extra boost to make you feel pretty?

I could be really, really far off here, but if this sounds like you, then here is what's wrong with you:

There's somethign about your past.. maybe your father yelled at you about every little thing; maybe you were ugly in middle school and blossomed but you still feel ugly. (ugly duckling syndrome). Maybe you've had a lot of really bad friends/family members/etc. who have said mean an dhurtful things, and although they may not have had anything to do with your appearance, it brought you down on all levels of yourself.

If this is you, then all you have to do is hold your head high and let your personality shine. Be a shining example of who you want to be. Looks aren't everything so no matter how ugly you feel or how pretty you actually are, it is ultimately the way you act that defines you. Have confidence in who you are on the inside, and eventually, the confidence will lift you up in all sorts of ways. And then one day, you'll find the love of your life and he'll make you feel AMAZING. He'll tell you everything he loves about you, and part of that will be that you're beautiful, but that you don't even know it. He'll tell you how much he loves you and how pretty you are, and even if you don't agree with him, you'll believe that at least HE thinks so. And everything will be ok.

I really believe that LOVE makes everything feel better. It changes people..

anyway.. i hope you feel better soon!

~SY.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (18 June 2009):

Honeypie agony auntNothing "wrong" with you per say. Just low self esteem. You should work on that. Most women can find a million faults with herself and her body, yet when another person looks at you they don't see them.

No One is perfect. Which.. in fact is a good thing.

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A female reader, desesperada Brazil +, writes (18 June 2009):

desesperada agony auntThere is nothing wrong with you. Is there something troubling going on in your life or have you ever had a bad experience in your past? if you feel as though this could lead to an eating disorder I would seek help ASAP.

Sometimes the reason people feel this way is because there is an underlying emotional issue. if you are in school try talking to your counselor, there are also free hotlines that you can call.

let me know if this helps!

best of luck

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