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writes: Hello, I just wanted some advice on my personal situation at the moment. I am happily married to a lovely guy but I (we) are having problems with the neighbours where we live. We own our home in a block of flats, and mostly I like it here apart from our neighbours below us in the block. Last year I was stabbed during a robbery and I have lost my confidence a bit about going out particularly at night on my own. I work for myself at home, and we are both considerate, quiet people with regards to noise etc. The woman downstairs has only met me once when she moved in a few years ago. I don't even know her name! Anyway, for the past two years she has been in her garden downstairs smoking 20 dozen cigarettes per second and calling me names and gossiping with her various family members. It is just nasty stuff like 'she is a saddo upstairs', 'They are noisy up there', 'She got a man up there, god knows how she managed that' and 'I bet they are welfare scroungers with no jobs' and she got 'no friends and no life' (which is not true). I really don't understand why she would be this way as I have never done anything to her! My husband laughs it off but then he is out working during the day so doesn't have to deal with the worst of it. Maybe I am just being oversensitive because it has been a traumatic year but it is impossible to move from where we are because of financial reasons at the moment. Any thoughts?
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reader, toritor567 +, writes (20 June 2006):
Ethier move or ask to talk,because the more you talk the better the situation gets.If you ignore it,the anger with berry up inside you and you will start to have problems and not jsut ones with your neighbors.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (19 June 2006):
 dear Taylor2006 the only thing i can say is be strong and try and block it out, you know your good people so take no noticed of petty people with nothing better to do then start rumours, you have your friends and they know you so although it may be difficult to start with you must just get on with your happy life. you say you've had a traumatic year, well i think you have enough to deal with so don't lower yourself to their level, take a leaf out of your husbands book and laugh it off they are obviously the pathetic ones not you!!
if this does keep going on then you could see if the police will have a word with them.
i hope you can raise above this petty woman
keep me posted
good luck to you xxx
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