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writes:Hii cupids. Im having a bit of man trouble, although hes done nothing but be great.. I met him a long time ago, about 4 years ago, we were both really young and shy, although we switched names and msn addresses we didnt really get much further. We've spoke abit since, just chit chat, not seen each other since, but about 3 months ago we bumped into each other in town, recognised each other and began chatting. We went for coffee, talked, complimented each other on the improvement of our looks, lol. We exchanged phone numbers and went our own ways :) we've met up id say about 15/20 times since, we talk somehow every day and we're getting on great! We shared our first kiss on our second actual meet up and we've done lots of coupley things/dates. He seems to really like me, very keen to meet and get to know me, hes very touchy feely, i dont get the feeling hes using me for sex although its been mensioned and i really like him. But for some reason the more i see him, talk to and about him or plan to do something with him, the more i try back off.. Its really weird, i was meant to spend the day at his on sunday but i cancelled, and im going to his on wednesday but i know ill probably let him down, i just cant understand myself! Ive been in love before, ive been through the whole 'butterflies' thing and cosy dates. But ive never felt like this, ive had sexual partners in the past, so has he. But i get the feeling i dont want to sleep with him, even though im certainly attracted to him and have never had trouble with sex in the past.. Everytime we get close in that way, i brush him off.. I feel like im pissing him about but dont know why!! My head and heart are both useless right now! Can you guys help?!xxx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Ok so yes you do like him and you think that he is a great guy. Was your last sexual partner the person you loved? If so and you got hurt this could be holding you back. Just look in to your past and try and think on anything that could be holding you back from this guy. It does sound like you are nervous and this is why you are backing of.
Just go to his and take things slowely if he tries to have sex and you dont feel comfortable just say no that you are not ready as you are feeling a little nervous. But you should just go to his house on wednesday and dont let him down as you will be angry with yourself for letting him go for no reason.
Goodluck.
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