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writes:I could use some advice from anyone who has been in a fairly long-term relationship before.I came out of a long-term relationship just over 6 months ago and I've found it very hard to get over (I didn't want it to end). Since then I can't enjoy things that we used to do together without her. For example, there was a few comedy shows I had on DVD that she had never seen before, so one night she came over, and we stayed up all night and watched each episode of one show back to back. We both laughed our heads off, and we really seemed to enjoy watching the show even more in each others company.Since then, I just can't seem to sit and enjoy watching the show without having the memories of her lying next to me, giggling away like she used to. She isn't hear anymore! So it would be nice to enjoy watching my favorite shows without thoughts of her whizzing through my head.Anyone else been here? How did you overcome this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 The way I overcame this is to create new memories to cambat the old ones.
Each time you do something that might make you remember her, do that event with new people...either on a date, or with a group of friends that you will have fun with.
You will have to do it a number of times, but eventually, you will have more memories to enjoy from.
Here is a suggest...is your favorite TV show on DVD? Have a weekend marathon of watch that show with your friends, and try to meet new fans of the show to take part in the weekend marathon.
OR...even better, you can stop watching TV altogether, and go out instead and meet new women to spend your time with.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (26 February 2008):
 I'm afraid it's just going to take time. I agree with eyeswideopen when she says "stop watching the shows for awhile. Try not to engage in any of the activities you did as a couple".
You need to take time out to heal after the break up. I remember when I left my girlfriend a few months back even sitting on my own sofa, in my place, watching a my TV reminded me of her. It took a while for me to disassociate these things from the her and our relationship.
Likewise things that she gave me during our relationship were removed from my sight and shoved in a box somewhere. Out of sight, out of mind.
I wrote an article on how I dealt with the break up and found the ideas suggested to me extremely helpful. Maybe you will too. Here it is:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Best of luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 First off stop watching the shows for awhile. Try not to engage in any of the activities you did as a couple. Just for a little while until you have allowed father time to knit up your ravelled sleeve of care.
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