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writes: I've not long come out of a relationship that I was very sad to lose. My most recent ex is a lovely girl who made me very happy while we were together, but I must accept that unless a time comes where distance and university are no longer obstacles in our relationship, we cannot be together.We were only together for five months, but this has left me feeling really bad. I know it'll get easier in time (it's only been 2 weeks since the break up) and I just have to stay active until I'm ready to move on. The problem is that I don't feel ready to move on and I think she does. She's 19 and I'm 22. It just doesn't feel like I should be the one struggling. I've been hurt before and I have always found someone else in the end... But until I did find somebody else I was miserable, and it is this misery I have returned to.Why does it take me so long to get over failed relationships? I've been in three serious relationships now and every time they have finished I've never been able to get over it until I find somebody new. Why is this? Why do I find it so difficult?Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for what was a very well thought out response. Very helpful!
I just hate the idea of not being happy without a girlfriend. I really love being in relationships and when I'm not I don't feel like a complete person. Is that wrong or do you think a lot of people feel that way? I feel like the only one who is so clearly different after going through something like this. I lose the spring in my step and I think it's very noticeable. Everybody else I see who has gone through heartbreak has been pretty much back to normal in weeks. For me... I never really seem to get back to my best unless I find somebody to love. I wake up in the morning and I instantly feel more miserable than I do when I'm with somebody. That to me just isn't normal and I really want to change!
Is there any way or anything I can do to change that? Is there anything else I can do that will release happy hormones?
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