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writes:Okay so i need help, theres this boy who i like and he likes me too but people including my friends tell me that he's not a nice person and that he will ruin everything for me such as see other girls. However, when i talk to him i never see that side. He's handsome, very attractive, nice and a bad boy. I literally had a crush on him from first sight, so i was in shock when he started talking to me and caught feelings. I trust my friends but im so happy when i talk with this guy, he just puts a smile on my face. Every girl needs a bad boy, well some of us do. But he is nothing like that all, if only they got to know the real him. So, help guys. Should i continue with this guy or listen to the people?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (23 December 2013):
Women who seek to date bad boys typically get exactly what they are looking for....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2013): I was never a fan of Bad Boys.
But base on your story he seem always nice to you, so I guess his not that BAD.
But be careful,BECAUSE The person who puts a smile in your face could be the same person who might BREAK your heart and even your dreams.
You never know that. Unless, you try to be with him.
My suggestion is just enjoy getting to know him and if you see signs that he is really a BAD BOY, then you know what to do.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (22 December 2013):
Yes, every girl needs a bad boy so that they know to never date one again and to know the value of a good guy. You think you see something different than everyone else because you're wearing rose tinted glasses right now. Once he screws you over you'll understand it, you'll be heartbroken, but you will have had a great learning experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2013): Do you know what one of the biggest turnoffs is for a good guy? The girl having dating a bad boy first.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (22 December 2013):
 No woman needs a bad boy. And while it is possible your friends are judging him harshly, chances are they're not. They're aren't infatuated with him so they're seeing what you aren't.
Just because someone is nice to you does not mean they're a quality person with sound judgment and good character. Even the most vicious, violent offenders know how to be charming some of the time. If players acted like assholes from the start they'd be easier to spot and avoid.
Your guy friend has acquired a reputation. Maybe it's deserved and maybe it isn't. Keep an open mind and take things very slowly. If you don't want to be used for sex, then take sex off the table and don't engage in cyber sex or overly flirty talk.
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (22 December 2013):
The bad guys can usually charm themselves into women's knickers and can make them available at their beck and call anytime when they fell like sex.You can't see that but other men can but you wouldn't believe them anyway.You'll probably fall in love with him and have sex with him and he'll be having sex with other girls as well and he'll completely ignore your feelings and protestations and you'll put up with it.The bad guys can do this but not the good guys.In nature women want babies with the good guys but want sex with the bad guys.I'm a good guy and can't behave like that.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 December 2013):
 I have dated one "bad boy" (1 out of 4 men) and that was the BIGGEST mistake I have ever made in partners. EVER.
No girl NEEDS a bad boy, she might WANT one, but for the wrong reasons. YOU think you can change him, that he will be faithful because YOU are YOU, and YOU will fix him. You think you really know him and they all don't... well GOOD luck.
I would consider the people who told you he is no good and if they have given you crappy advice before I'd make up my own mind, but I would take it REALLLLLLLLLY slow if you DO date him.
I doubt you have any intentions of listening to anyone. And I can't TELL you if he is good or bad, as I don't know him. But personally, if people who CARE about me, tells me a guy I'm crushing on is a bad apple I would hope I would listen.
Guess he is your mistake to make.
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