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writes:Hey, this may confuse some of you and it confuses myself, but i need help on it i have more then 1 question.Im 15 (just recently turned 15) The Guy i like is 17.His adorable, great body, really nice and caring, his like prince charming but with some downers and flaws.The Storyline:we are pretty much a couple, we spend time together have fun kiss, hugg, hold hands and he shows me to his mates and my friends already knew him. except we arnt ''offical'' yet, due to he recently left his girlfriend to be with me, im fed up with his ex and his sister and my friends. His just GREAT to be around and i adore him, i never want to say goodbye each time i leave him and as i walk away he always runs up and kisses me and tells me he will miss me and he loves me more then yesterday.Questions:1. A few of my friends think im making a huge mistake getting involved with him, they say his full of it like when he says how much he loves me and cares for me, but i feel like telling them to just shut it because his what make me happy and they cant seem to see it. how do i get my friends to come around the the idea?.2. His girlfriend absaloutly hates me, shes been trying to get me to hit her and shes constantly telling people im a slut and just things like that, iv been getting insults all my life and i really cant take them anymore.. but she keeps on insisting i fight her. im not going to iv told her that, getting into a punch up doesnt solve anything (plus my hands stuffed from recently punching a tree, cause i got s fed up with her crap.) How do i get her to just stop?3. His sister, shes nice and everything to my face but i was on the phone to him last night n he asked her who do u think i should be with his ex or me. she said it doesnt matter they r both fat, she just really annoys me, she insults me on the phone and everything but she doesnt have the guts to say it to my face. her and her brother are close they tell each other everything. How do i tell him i cant deal with his sister being a bitch?How do i get her to stop being a bitch and insulting me?.4. He acts so nice and careing and everything but last night i called for an hour i listened to him talking to his sister instead of me, couldnt he just tell me to call back later?, And he didnt seem to care about anything i said except for when i said ''i love you''. i know he works all day (3am - 5pm) then somedays he does double shift. i know his tired and warn out and just wants to relax but he should still care about what i say right?. i really like him and im not just going to give up like everyone says i should, Should i talk to him about how he made me feel when he was ignoring me and how it seemed like he didnt care about what i was saying?.Im litteraly going insane cause of this boy, its recently come to my attention that now that im his new girl every chick seems to hate me and insult me.how do i fix this without walking away from him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 July 2010):
I think you are in a real mess. And you're not listening to the people around you when they say that you shouldn't be involved. Instead, your taking the advice of your friends and throwing it back. Not a good idea. I'll answer each point as I can.
1 - Listen to your friends. If your friends are screaming that he's bad news, then he's bad news. Look at what this guy did. He left his girlfriend to be with you, claims he loves and all that. Yet you're not official. Bag sign. If you don't listen, you'll lose them and when your 'date (because he's not a boyfriend) has had enough, you'll have no one.
2 - He left his girlfriend for you. If he left you for someone else, you'd hate her. She won't stop hating you, and there is nothing you can do to make her stop other than ignore her. This guy of yours should be standing up for you. He's not doing a thing.
3 - You're already crossing his sister. She's close to her brother, and will be protective. Sorry, if she doesn't like you but she won't stop being bitchy, and she won't care what you say to her. This is something else that won't stop unless he stands up for you and stops it. And he's not standing up.
4 - Surprise, he ignores you as well.
In short, this "Prince Charming" if yours hasn't made you an official girlfriend yet is happy to kiss you and such. He doesn't stand up for you when his ex has a go at you. He doesn't stand up for you when his sister insults you. And he ignores you.
He doesn't sound all great to your friends, and he doesn't sound great to me either. Now you didn't listen your friends when they said he was bad. Maybe you won't listen to me. But I'm a guy, so I know guys. And I know that you're with a bum, pure and simple. A man who doesn't stand up for you isn't worth your time.
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Well you did basically steal another girls boyfriend... So of course the ex girlfriend hates you. How would you feel if you were her? You should tell him to talk to her about leaving you alone though. Maybe even tell her she is acting immature and that isn't going to make him want to be with her again, and that she is being a cow.
His sister- If you guys last long enough his sister will have no other choice that to get used to you.
Your friends- Tell them to mind their own business and your relation with him is not open to discuss in conversation. Tell them he makes you happy and if they were really your friends they would leave you alone and get off your back about it. (They are probably just Jealous because you have a guy your involved with anyway. Do they?)
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