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writes:My husband has been extremely hard to live with for the past few years. He has wanted to control every aspect of our lives. If I let the cats out there would be a big upset that lasted hours until the cats were home again. He made me feel unattractive and unsure of myself. I tried to get him to change but he wouldn't listen to me.Eventually I developed an online relationship with a man who made me feel so good about myself. This gave me confidence to say more forcefully that I did not like the way things were at home. My husband found out about my other relationship and we went to one marriage counselling session. The counsellor suggested that he may have obsessive compulsive disorder. We have agreed to further counselling sessions.I broke off my online relationship to try to give my marriage a chance. I am finding it so hard to do without this man. Every bit of me wants to leave and be with him but then I think of my children and that my husband does love me. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): For me, there are two issues here, First your marriage and whether you should stick at it.Sounds like your marriage has been tough for a while and may need to end if he's so hard to live with. Big question is do you love him any more? If not and you're just there for the kids there's no point. I'm sure your kids must understand. If you do love him, run with the counsellors advice to try and make things better. Second is the on line relationship. Just be very careful of on line relationships. There are so many horror stories when people give up all and dont get what they were expecting.
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reader, michellebeth +, writes (24 August 2008):
i answered just now before i logged in , i told you too make yourself happy , im going through the same thing so if u want to tell me more put me down as a friend , maybe i could help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): ive always belived that my kids happyness would be the most important thing in my live but sometime we need to make our selfs happy too , u didnt say if u loved your husband , i think if u dont then you shouldnt spend the rest of your life with him , life is 2 short make yourself happy
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