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writes:I met a man a couple of weeks ago and had a great first date together. He's a true gentleman and I was excited to have met him. But now ever since the first date,it has been nothing but a headache trying to set up a second date. HE was the one who first suggested a second date (as a man should be). But I have made sure he knows that I am interested in a second date too,and every time he suggests a day and I agree to it,he immediately finds a reason why it wouldn't be such a good day for him after all. He seems completely indecisive and I don't know why,but I'm ready to just give up on this guy. He just keeps asking me when we can go out,but keeps shooting down even his own suggestions! It makes no sense,why would a guy do this? I can only think that he either is not very interested,is unsure or fearful of something,or I'm just one of many other women that he's seeing,and he's stringing me along in case it doesn't work with another. Any thoughts?? Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 September 2011):
Just a guess: maybe he's too nice and doesn't have the guts to just blow you off and/or tell you he doesn't really want to go on another date?
I've done that to guys that I thought were nice and all...but I felt rude just ignoring them but don't have the heart to say, "I don't want to go out with you again." And would do similar things to what he's doing....and all the "I don't knows" and "I'm busy then, maybe on Friday" led to them just getting over it and not calling me anymore.
So maybe he's being difficult on purpose so you'll just be annoyed and give up. Even if he did say that you should go on a second date, he could have felt it at the moment but changed his mind. I think if he tries to make plans with you again and does the same BS just call him out on it and tell him that you'll go out with someone that wants to go out with you.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 Not sure what his reason is, but I concur with the previous response. If he wanted a second date badly enough, it would have happened long before now.
Time to give up on him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 September 2011):
 All I can think is; He is just not that into you.. Or he would find a date without trouble.
I'd look elsewher, can you imagine living with a man down the line this indecisive?
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