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writes:My ex girlfriend and I had a long distance relationship but we've recently broken up and decided to remain good friends. The problem is that we have an event scheduled two months from now and are planning to attend it. We've bought the tickets already but the arrangements haven't been made yet, like airfare and hotel reservations. My questions is should I attend the event or completely drop the entire issue because it would make things just plain uncomfortable between the two of us?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Then it's best you didn't go to the event with her. Your feelings would have taken over, tampering with the friendship. Who paid for the tickets? If you did and she was taking him, I would be steamed, she's got no right to do that. However, if she paid for them then she can take whomever.
Look at it this way, you avoided a potential blow up in your friendship. She's moved on, focus on moving on yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo she's decided to take her new boyfriend to this event instead of me. And she met this guy while she was still involved with me. This has hurt a lot not just because I won't be going to this event, which I really wanted to go, but the fact that she's in a relationship already less then a week after ending things with me.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 October 2010):
It's only awkward if you make it awkward...set aside differences. Focus on having a good time, and keep it as friends. You can go to the event together but you don't have to interact with her all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWere currently in the process of deciding if this event can be worked out between the both of us. She knows that I want to go but her friends will be there too so she's wondering if it'll make things uncomfortable.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 September 2010):
Tickets are non-refundable and depending on the event can be hard to get someone to take them off your hands. Plus, if you paid a pretty penny for the tickets then I would go....So I would go ahead and make the reservations you can sit next to each other on the plane, or get different times for your flights.. The hotel you most definitely need to get separate rooms, it wouldn't be in your best interest to share a room let alone a bed...You can go to the event together, maybe meals together, or you can always dine separately. This will be the ultimate test of your friendship.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (18 September 2010):
 I should try and sell the tickets if i were you. If things arent going the way they should it would ruin the event for you anyway. Hope this helps
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