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writes: I have been going to church lately and found out one of my classmates from college goes to the same church I do. We never really talked in class or had any contact, but since we found out we're the same religion (he just recently got baptized in church) we've been hanging out a lot. One day we spent almost the whole day at church after the main service and talked about how our new classes were going and stuff like that. Very causual and friendly. Since we've been hanging out other people have been teasingly saying we make a great couple when it's not even like that, we're just friends. The thing is I don't know if he likes hanging out with me as friends or if he's interested in more. He asked me outright one time if he knew what other people were saying and I said yes, I figured people would assume we liked each other. He told me he didn't want me to panic about what other people are saying because we're just friends, and I told him it was no problem, I know we're just friends, and I do like it that way and am not interested in bf or gf or anything like that. We have a lot of fun together and I asked if he wanted to see this free holiday concert in the county college and he said sure. He kind of insisted on picking me up even though I said I could meet him there because when there's an event at church, he alwyas picks me up, whcih I told him before he doesn't have to do because I know it's going to reinforce the idea that we're a couple, and I don't wnat it to seem I'm taking advantage of him. I invited my best friend to come along too so it wouldn't look or feel like a date and he insisted on picking me up even though she would have to go to church later. He offered to drop her off at church so the two of us could go bowling. It's not like I'm complaining or saying he's bothering me, but I'm curoius to see if these are signs he likes me or if he's just really friendly and accomodating. I guess it seems a little vague, but I just felt like if he was just being friendly he wouldn't go through the trouble--he even paid for the bowling and paid for my movie ticket when a group of us went to the movies...he's a great gentlemen in either case, but I was wondering if this meant something more than it does or if he's just a gentleman? THanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Hi--thanks for the responses--No, I don't like him that way--friends would be more than fine for me--and yes, I was just wondering if he liked me that way--I think it is very innocent and I don't want to ruin this friendship that's now developing with him...I guess I'll wait and see--you're right in that I don't wnat to ask him and then him be completely surprised by it...I'll see how things turn out..thanks for the responses :O)
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hmmm...this is a tough one. There is definately a chance that he likes you in that way. It's 50/50 from what I see. He could just be a really friendly nice guy innocently being a good friend to you but at the same time he could fancy you and want to ask you out.
I couldn't say for definate that it's either one. If you really want to know (and only if you really really want to know) you should ask him. But if he doesn't like you in that way then it could get awkward and he'll start being careful how he acts around you so you don't get the 'wrong' idea, and things wouldn't be how they were.
But because you don't know if he likes you and there is an equal chance that he doesn't then... if I were you I'd just wait and see. If he likes you in that way he'll let you know soon enough. And if he doesn't then you will also know after a certain amount of time goes by with no action.
One question: You don't fancy him do you? And do you actually want him to fancy you or are you just wondering?
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reader, kellyO +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hi there,
it seems he likes u really really much.what iam not sure of is why he is still holding back? perhaps it is his idea of getting to know u better.
what i would suggest u do is relax and enjoy his friendship for now and see where it leads.
Goodluck dear
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