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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. I'm not really sure why I'm asking this because it won't make any difference either way but I want to work out possible reasons for why I feel the way I do right now. This may be pretty long so sorry in advance. Basically my ex infuriates me beyond belief. If we ever talk, it becomes an argument. For some reason, we just can't seem to agree on anything since we split up yet I've been constantly asking myself questions about him and our relationship that I never cared about before. My ex was the only person who ever said that he loved me so I think that's one of the reasons I'm confused. We broke up about 6 months ago and I moved on pretty quickly. I still cared about him but our relationship was on-off constantly because he "was afraid of getting hurt" and I didn't want to wait around forever. When I was in a relationship with another guy, my ex told me that he still loved me and that he still wanted us to be together. After lots of confusion, I decided to end the relationship I was in but not get back with my ex either (my ex was jealous and my new relationship was affecting our friendship so I thought it would help if he didn't have to see me with another guy). After a few months he started seeing someone else. I never questioned him about it because I didn't see the point. That was when the arguments between us got really bad. We would be having a pretend fight over something like a cookie and I'd say something like "You know you'll give me it. I'm just too cute." Although I'd be joking he'd start taking it seriously saying that I'm not cute and my immaturity was doing his head in. When I said it, I didn't think anything of it because he used to call me cute all the time. The ridiculous arguments were getting too much for me so I cut all contact. Although he was in this relationship, he was viewing my facebook profile and photos a lot (at one point it was over 180 times in 2 days). Yesterday I randomly said hi to him on facebook. He ignored me which didn't bother me at first but now it's got me asking myself lots of questions that never even crossed my mind before like "Is he avoiding conversation because he's in another relationship?", "Why isn't he having an on-off relationship with his new girlfriend?", "Has he told her that he loves her?", "Do they have stupid arguments like we did?", "Why was he viewing my profile so much if he had moved on?". What I need help with is working out why I'm troubling myself with these unnecessary questions that I can't even answer anyway. Thank you all so much for taking the time to read this. I know I've been babbling a lot.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 It sounds to me like you never actually got over him fully before going in to another relationship. I know you probably think that you were over him and ready to move on, but you ended this new relationship because your ex told you he still loved you, and even though you never got back with him you still ended a relationship for him to protect his feelings, this shows that you still werent completely over him, and now that he has moved on and found himself a new partner it has left you questioning your feelings now, you probably dont even realise how you feel but you are still not completely over this guy.
Avoid all contact with him now and just concentrate on enjoy your single life at the moment, give yourself some time away from men and stay clear from your ex. You will feel better in time and stop asking yourself these questions. Goodluck.
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