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36-40,
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writes:Hey... I'm 14 and a 2 month ago I split up with my boyfriend who I had been going out with for 7 months because I felt the love wasn't there and I didn't care what he had to say. He wasn't very smart and didn't care to have a conversation about anything but day to day life. But when I broke up with him I cried a lot and asked to be friends he accpeted. Then after a month of acting like we are going out but saying we weren't. Which we weren't. I decided it wasn't fair on either of us and told him I wanted to get back togther.. He said he wanted to be friends because he felt he was missing out on stuff. I was a bit shocked. A week later he asked me back out I said Yes. We were happy again for 3 weeks. Then I found out! A week Before we split up He lost his virginity to some girl in his year. He told me on the phone because of the fear someone else would. Also he said he had cried a lot over it. I dumped him the next day. He replied "alright then". Just because he was in front of all his friends and didn't want to look needy, I think. I was so horrified he and her had had sex, they was only 15 that's not even legal! He also done it at his house on his bed where I went when we got back together and cuddled on. His deffence was that after I dumped him for the first time he felt like rubbish. No way was I taking him back.So other people knew whilst I walked around oblivious. And the girl... I know and I think of the times she smiled at me and I smiled back .. I feel so foolish...Now I just want him to hug me, tell me it was a lie. I feel needy... I don't have that many friends I can rely on in school. Help?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Hi my darling,
Kelly has got it right, girlfriend. FORGET THIS GUY!!! I know how you're feeling, you are suffering from a broken heart. Sometimes the only way to get over that is time, but you know what speeds up the process? Feeling super good about breaking up with him. Everytime you feel bad and want him back, you think about what he did to you, cheated on you (and gave away his virginity?!?? What a creep!) - and don't feel sad about it. Feel AWESOME about the fact that you didn't waste any more time on him.
You can obviously do so. much. better. than him and find a guy who likes to talk about more things than what he ate for lunch, and who will respect you never to cheat, and who will make you feel like a million collars all the time - not like crap when you're breaking up, getting back together, etc.
Leave the drama behind and feel amazing about yourself and new life without that jerk!
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Whatever you do, do NOT take him back!!!!!!!! You may feel needy at the minute but this will pass with time! You don't need a cheater to hug you! Nobody needs a cheater! This is one life lesson which must be learnt! If you need someone to talk to then you can msg me, I'm free to talk and I check this site evryday! X
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