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female
age
30-35,
*andie
writes:My fiance and I started dating January 2012. It actually went quicker than I'm use to. By July we moved in together. In December 2013 we got engaged for the first time. In August 2014 he broke up with me. For weeks I was a mess. At 6 weeks I accepted everything and was ready to start moving on. The next day he messaged me and day after that we met again and started dating in September. That December we got engaged again.Now he wants to break up again. Says that we aren't the same anymore and that he doesn't love me but cares about me dearly. Says that things have never been the same and that he hoped we could be the same but that it never has been. I don't know how to accept any of this. I spoke to him and seemingly got him to think about everything but for the first time in or relationship I have no idea where his head is. He messages me while i try leave him to think. He randomly kissed me last time we saw each other (this is after he said he wants out). His actions and what he says are 2 different things. Few weeks back he wanted to buy me a new car, few days later he said i'm his wife even if its not on paper. None of it makes any sense. How can he be sweet and loving but say he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me? I have to be home alone for a few says this week and then more than a week in October, i want him to come to me and hopefully we can talk but i have no idea if it will do any good. And if I accept that he doesn't want to be with me how can i be friends with somebody that i love so much. Yes we have had bad times but there are so many great, stupid, funny times that we shared. Then I was talking to him trying to talk him out of all this last week he wouldn't look at me and started tearing up and then went to the bathroom. Its all so confusing.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (14 September 2015):
 It sounds to me like he has some psychological problems. My advice would be to call it a day. You are at risk of being a yoyo to his moods. It will bring you down, ruin you present, and affect your future. Find someone who loves you and is stable and live happily ever after.
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