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*ellabae69
writes:SO me and this girl [well call her maria] became friends in 6th grade and we got close right away because he had a lot of stuff in common. then by 8th grade [last year] she started being really clingy and controlling to me and whenever i didnt want to do something that she wanted me to do shed get all mad and start yelling at me and tryed to tell all of our other friends not to talk to me since we had the same friends. Afterwords shed get all nice to me again after like a day or 2 but never said sorry and i guess i just forgave her cus wed been friends for 2 years. i actually got the the point where she just told me everything to do and all i wanted was to not be friends any more but i didnt know how to do it. summer came and i went away the whole time and she called me nonstop but i never answered. so this year when we started high school i thought she would have got the point that i didnt want to talk anymore but she didnt and at 1st she always nagged me to hangout but my parents always said no because they dont like her. she still is always trying to make me skip and force me to do a buch of stuff like that with her thaty i dont want to and she never lisens to me when i say no. i have other good friends now that arent like her but i dont know how i can get her to leave me alone...? im not the type of person to just say it like that eaither because to me thats mean and im not like that. so what do you think i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, carljohnson91  +, writes (26 March 2009):
I was in a very similar situation. But there comes a point when you need to do something. I made it clear to her I didn't like her that much anymore, and if she tried to make amends (which she did) I would begin the transition to being friends again. You need to break her then make her, show her you're not going to be pushed around. If she's a true friend she'll realise the errs of her ways and befriend her again. If she doesn't, well, forget it. The medicine hurts, but it works.
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