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writes:Thank you to all who respond. I am dating a few men right now. There is one I like quite a bit. Mostly we email...I did ask if he would like to get together. The pattern is that I do not hear from him for a few days and then he emails back with a long and apologetic email which states where he has been for the last few days and why he could not get back to me. He is busy I know as he is in high tech sales and is on the road a lot but I am thinking of cutting him loose...his behvavior seems a red flag that he is either not interested or is not sure yet if he is interested. Any thoughs much appreciated. I have let him know I am interested but feel I can extend no farther. Reply to this Question
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reader, DV1  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 You have to understand that just because someone is busy a lot doesn't mean that they're not thinking of you. If he takes the time out to apologize, it shows that you were on his mind. If he was making no attempt, then he wouldn't be interested. If you liked him, you would be willing to to accept his busy lifestyle. You can't expect someone to be wiling to drop everything and come to you on your time. I would call him and ask him if he's ready for a commitment at this time, because you have needs. At the same time, listen, and try and respect what his needs are at this time. You may find that he likes you so much that he'll cut you loose for a while until everything is situated. It won't be permanent, but it will give him space to be able to focus on you more...
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