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writes:I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background:My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and when he met me he had trust issue but i prove him i didnt cheat . When my bf got in a car accident and got shot C was there 100% while i was with my grandpa at the hospital when he passed. But my bf kept texting me saying baby get C off of me please etc (that was two days after the accident) But couple days later my sister took me to the hospital because I wasnt feeling to good etc and that i found out I was pregnant . I told my bf and he was happy . Fast fwd the story im 3 months pregnant and C came by to check on my bf but I had to go to my grandma house and check on her. When I came back home C car was still there. I opened the door C was smiling and staring at my bf then she looked at me and gave me a dirty look and left . Fast forward NOW im 8 months and i was cleanin the hallway and that when i heard the doorbell and bf opened and it was C and they started kissing and they was talking after that and she told my bf that she 5 months pregnant with twins also and started denying the babies saying its not his and she compare my 5 month ultrasounds with hers and i heard him say omg they all got my nose and lips and sat down saying how am i gonna tell M and I came downstairs saying you dont have to tell me because i overheard yall talkin. Now he keeps textin n callin me sayin baby let me explain And promise me that this wont happen again etc . We been together for 2 years and im having his FIRST kids too! PS she having boys but my question is What should I do ? Break up or make up ?Sign M
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2012):
 It’s very rare for a father to get custody of a child when the mother is fit. I would consult an attorney that specializes in family law and see what your options are. Many will give a phone consult for free.
Good Luck to you.
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reader, Ms.Gomes +, writes (31 January 2012):
Ms.Gomes is verified as being by the original poster of the question ALL my fam lives Cape Verde, Italy, Portugal, UK, Jamaica, Trinidad, Puerto Rico, and I had fam in USA but they're gone (btw these are my ethnicitys) but If i move to another country my ex gonna take me to court for custody etc ! Idnt want that ! Now my ex keeps callin me n trying to get back with me !!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 January 2012):
 Wow you are going through a really horrendous time right now, yes you need to make him pay child support and show him that he needs to take responsibility. Is there anybody that you can turn to for help, aunts or uncles? Cousins. Am sure you must have some family somewhere belonging to either of your parents. You have went through a lot in your young life. But remember you have two children who are going to need all off your love and support very soon so you need to stay strong for them and remain positive. Yes it is going to be very hard for you, I think you need to go and talk to someone about all the issues you have to deal with at such a young age. Maybe ask your doctor to refer you to somewhere. Good luck.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (31 January 2012):
 Why she texting you, what is there to talk about, you and him is finished and he's decided to be with her.. He knows that your aware he cheated, you fought over the ultrasound. You probably made it clear that you were finished, and since she was there as well, she heard it and she got the man she wants.
What is left to say except child support and maintenance.
Sorry your nan died four days ago... with all this stress, I can see why you didn't mention it, but mentioned when your grandpa died. Your probably one of them people who grieve silently or heal very quickly when somebody dies. That's a good thing... . Terrible position to be in at the moment, what with everyone dying and leaving you, your boyfriend cheating on you and allowing his new woman to bother you. I hope your grandma fixed up a will to make sure that your not homeless, but luckily you have your twin brother, and I'm sure that he can help you out.
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reader, Ms.Gomes +, writes (31 January 2012):
Ms.Gomes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, but my parents died when I was 5 and my grandparents took me and my twin in (me and my NOW ex bf are twins) and idk why he didnt do it and thankss again n i did when i heard him say idk how tell me that when i came downstairs grabbed the ultrasounds etc and i couldnt reach his face because im 5'0 and he is 6'9 1/2 . But im done with him hes goin to pay child support . He now with C and she keeps texting me talking ish to me and on Friday my nana passed away and C talkin ish about her and im really get mad n ish !
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reader, Miamine +, writes (31 January 2012):
If the girl was bothering him, why did he text you, when he knew you was in grief because grandpa was hospital and dying.. why didn't he just tell the nurses to ban her or send her away?
And if he was fighting her off, why did he suddenly change his mind, invite her to YOUR house and decide to kiss and talk about secrets. Why didn't he go to her house, why didn't he go to his own.
Why would he think you was sleeping if you were cleaning up.. didn't he see you standing up with the duster and the polish before he answered the door?
Why would he give her your ultra sound... wouldn't she get jealous?
You seem to be overhearing a lot of things.. how come you don't go downstairs, tell them to stop kissing, or grab your ultra sound pictures and tell her to go away. How come you just listen to all of this, say nothing to him, say nothing to her, but come to dear cupid and ask us what we think.
When she kidnapped him... did he go tell the police?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2012):
Ok let me get this straight, your boyfriend’s EX girlfriend had him kidnapped… and then he was in a car accident AND got Shot…
Then when that happed your grandpa was in the hospital dying….(I’m sorry for your loss) and you are an orphan because both your parents are deceased…. (again so sorry for the loss)
AND BOTH YOU AND THE EX girlfriend are pregnant with TWINS… (seems to be a LOT of multiple births going on here on DC lately)
So then your BF compared YOUR ultrasound (he just happened to have a copy right there) with C’s ultrasound (both of TWINS) and was able to see that all four babies have HIS FEATURES… these must be some AWESOME 4D ultrasounds…
Clearly he is still very attached to C and I think until he works that out you need to break up… where will you live? Who will help you?
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reader, Ms.Gomes +, writes (31 January 2012):
Ms.Gomes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank Aunt Honesty n both my parents are dead. He thought i was sleeping n near the staircase n to b honest IDK
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reader, lucy92 +, writes (31 January 2012):
i think you should sit down and talk....maybe this guy really wants to be with you and his kids. guys will be guys and do stupid things! if you see that he hasn't changed and is still going around being stupid say goodbye. then you'll at least know you tried for you and your babies!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): How do you see familial traits in ultrasounds? They are just squigle-y black lines!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 January 2012):
Also.. I'm a bit confused.. if he knew you were in the house cleaning.. why did kiss some other woman, where you might see or hear him?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 January 2012):
You should listen to what he has to say.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (30 January 2012):
He obviously is still heavily involved with his ex girlfriend. You cannot trust this man, yes she treated him badly but he still wants more, more fool him for over stepping the mark. Yes you are having twins and it is a scary time for you especially when you are so young but honey you deserve better than this. Do you have parents you can turn to for help with the babies? Don't forget he still has to help you financially with them and am sure he will also want access. But honey he cheated on you, and I bet it was more than once. He is messed up at the moment and he cannot chose who he wants to be with. He cannot be trusted. It is your choice to make off course but if it was me, well I would show him where the door is and tell him it is over. You deserve so much better honey.
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