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writes: My boyfriend is dying and last week he got mad at me when I got angry now he never ever wants to see me again and every time my name is mentioned he gets very angry and does not want to hear my name I want so much to see him before he leaves this world but I am frightened of making any contact with him some one please tell me what to do thank you Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Ally, writes (3 February 2005): I believe he is telling you to leave, because he loves you and dont want to see you hurting. He wants to make sure you are happy when his body fails, he wants to pass remembering you as happy and in love, not as sad and deprssed because he couldnt stay in the world long enough to spend the rest of his life with you. Try giving him little short notes telling him about how you loe him, and will miss him, and will do whatever he wishes, let him know that u will only stay away if he really feels it best, encourage him or have someone encourage him to get him to write you a little note explaining how and why he dont want you by his side during his last days.
A reader, Abby, writes (3 February 2005): When you love someone...set them free. He is in too much pain to want to see you. Let him spend the last days of his life the way he needs them to be. Just know you had a very special person in your life who will change you forever. he can't change that. But let him go the way he needs to go. That may mean letting go of you and feeling angry.
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