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writes:Hi i just got back from holidays in portugal. whilst i was there i met a man and i felt so close to him i only knew him for a week but we really did fall for each other. Now since i have been home i cant stop crying and i miss him so much. he calls and texts me everyday and he feels the same way as me. we really do care alot for each other and i don't know how i am going to get over him. hes even talked about moving to where i live but i know there is no chance in that happening. Please help me i dont know what to do to get over him i cant stop thinking about him. Ive never felt this way about anyone before
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): When you are on holiday, you take a "vacation" from the real world. What I'm saying is that you leave your everyday activities, school work, or job, concerns, hopes, fears, preoccupations, worries, behind.
This means that you are more "open" (and vulnerable) to falling for the first attractive man you meet. Obviously this is what happened to you. Infatuation.
If you were dating for several months, and going out on a regular basis, you would soon begin to see the less-attractive aspects of his personality - and he would start to see yours. That is reality, and is inevitable in getting to really know what sort of person he is. As well as him getting to know you too.
Then when this happens, hopefully you start to get some sort of idea as to how good a match you would be for one another in the long run. If you find you can accept one another's good points and not-so-good points. OR, one or the other (sometimes both) realizes that nice as you both are, the relationship will not work, and you go your separate ways.
If you can think of your holiday romance as a fairy tale, and as Waterloo Sunset says, leave it behind - keep the memories and photos, but don't pine for him too long.....there must be other nice boys closer to home!
Its hard, I know.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Holiday romances always seem real, so are, but most are not. Move on, and leave the holiday where it belongs, in dream land, sorry to sound so blunt but i see nothing but misery coming from this. Keep the photos but get rid of the bloke.
take care
xx
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reader, candy00s +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I met a guy on my holidays and i feel the same he is all i think about.Ive been talking to him since i came home and i think he is expecting more than i can give him.My advice to you is that you are young and maybe not ready for such a commitment in a relationship.Moving out there is a big step you would be leaving everyone and everything you know behind. It could be the right decision but you are already having doubts so maybe in your heart you know you arent ready. Keep in touch with him and be friends go back and visit just dont feel you have to make such a permanent decision.xxx
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