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writes:Hi,I feel like I'm experiencing dumpers guilt relapse!My ex-girlfriend and I broke up back in June after spending a year and a half. I regard our relationship as the greatest relationship I have ever been in. Unfortunately, as the relationship became more serious, it became apparent to me that there were maybe too many differences between us. Also, for reasons I can't explain, I found myself becoming much more irritated by her in the final weeks of our relationship. I recognised this and hated myself for treating her this way, because I knew it was undeserved.So we broke up. Ultimately, it was me who wanted the relationship to end and that's exactly what happened. But for some reason my initial feelings of guilt are beginning to surface again. I find myself thinking about her more and more. As much as our relationship was fantastic and we have a lot of things which connect us, I still don't feel like she's the one I'm supposed to be with... but for whatever reason a niggling feeling has come into my mind which is making me question my choice.What has caused this? I'm a sensible adult and I need to be able to make decisions and stick with them, but at the moment I can't help but feel like I've made a mistake and I don't know why! Has anyone experienced this? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2013): i am a romantic and i believe if you two love each other the differences you have can be worked out. nobody is perfect and no relationship is perfect. if the relationship never suffered any serious matters then it could be salvaged. a good woman is hard to come by these days. if you say it was the greatest relationship you have ever been in that is a big indicator that all that seemed to have happened here is that you or both of you got bored. discover the differences you have between you two. communication is key. explore your differnent interests together and maybe you can find more things to do and love together. im sure she misses you and if shes a good woman she will inderstand. reach out to her before its too late.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (11 October 2013):
Dear OP,
Yes, I know this feeling, I guess it's very natural. But in my opinion, it's best to just ignore it and move on. You can't turn back time, even though sometimes you wish you could. And maybe these feelings are just there because you've not found a good "replacement" for her yet?
I only think of my ex and have some regrets when I'm really, really bored or lonely. So, the best remedy is to do something fun that I couldn't have done while still being together with her.
Maybe you can't remember anymore, but I'm sure there was a reason why you wanted this to end. And this reason probably would pop up again if the two of you came back together. So don't go there. Just look forward.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2013): Perhaps you're just missing your ex gf. It's a normal process when a relationship ends. Everyone goes through this. Time will pass and you'll forget her, move on and enter into a relationship you find more fulfilling. Although one question, if greatest relationship why end it? Don't feel guilty for falling out of love, it happens.
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