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writes:Has anyone been dumped by someone they truly love and care for? But with the circumstances being that they dumped you so that they themselves can find who they are and where they want to be in life and to pass school/work etc (my case is he has depression and left me to find out who he is and who he wants to be and to pass all his classes and not because of me or what ive done or said)If so how did you deal with it? and did they come back to you? FYI...guy who dumped me. I still talk to him, A LOT. Even kinda in the way Ive always talked to him. Just not so much love from his end. Reply to this Question
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Yes. I've had exactly the same happen to me just this week actually. I'm sorry to hear its happened to you. I'm tempted to say get back to you but I think the hardest part is knowing that deep down this person still has feelings for you but these are not enough to sustain a relationship. I'm just taking it day by day and thats what you need to do, maybe it might be an idea to take a little break from your normal routine (is possible), visit family etc.
Did they come back? Will let you know. In these situations its a distinct possibility (but that doesnt mean its probable or inevitable) and thats what makes it worse because there is a sliver of hope mingled with the grief of loss and in this situation that sliver can be as painful as the grief.
I wish I could tell you things will be ok, they may well be, but sadly this is one of those situations where there are no solutions. In this world, there are some problems which have none. That can be as painful as anything else; feeling powerless and trapped in the powerless inevitability of your predicament. I hope for you there is a happy ending. Good luck.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Love does not restrict it frees.
First you have to understand that!
If a person tells you they have to investigate and take inventory of their life, be encouraging, they are growing, healing, reinventing. Whatever, the outcome is always better.
Tell your friend you are available to listen and be there for them. Tell them to take all the time they need.
Let them about their business and you about yours.
When love acts it acts selflessly, that is real love.
And as the old cliche goes
Set it free and if it comes back its yours.
That's a load of crap. Love never blocks or locks anyone in a cage. If it comes back, great invite it in for tea and crumpets, enjoy the moment, for life is just that.
Many moments.
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