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writes: Hi, I am 18 and met this bloke who is 24, we fell for eachother straight away, after a week of knowing him he told me straight that he has a kid but doesnt see her as his x partner wouldn allow it. He seems like a really genuine bloke who would do anything for me! However, i took him to meet my parents and it all went wrong, they didnt like him one bit and told me they could never be happy for me! I ended the relationship because i think they know what is best for me but ever since i have been having second thoughts, What should i do? Live my life never knowing what could have been, or go for it and ruin my relationship with my parents and cause lots of heartache for them?? Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Kelz City, writes (23 February 2005): When it comes to a subject like dating and relationships, your parents DO NOT know what is best for you! Only you know what you want in a man not your parents unless you have an incestuous relationship with them! That's why you've been having second thoughts. If you listen to your parents in this area of life, you will forever be miserable. Do you actually think that they listened to whomever didn't want them together?.....nope! Parents should have no say in your personal affairs or it shouldn't go past advice when you ask for it. Ultimatums never work! It's not about rebelling, it's about you finding the kind of happiness for you. Turn the tables on your parents and ask them what they honestly would've done in your situation. Your parents can't be intimate with you and they don't know your intimacy needs. A good parent only wants their child to be happy and at this rate you'll never know what happiness is following their orders. It was very wrong how you dealt with the situation, how can you make a full sound judgement of someone in one visit? Your parents have no business looking for happiness in your intimacy, they have their own....that's why you're here. Only you know who's right for you. Your parents can NEVER stop being your parents, but you can and will pass up your soulmate at this rate. And one day, most likely before you or your mate, your parents won't be around....but you and your mate will. Will what they want matter then? Follow your own heart AND mind AND soul.....then you'll be with who's right for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2005): My guess is that this guy is black right, my question is do you love him? It really don't matter what color a persons skin is. The question is do they have to live with him? Family is suposed to love you no matter who you are with. Not all the time. Maybe they don't like him cuz he is differentBut don't go out with him just because your parents don't approve it matters more of the heart. It's better to love and loss than to never love at all. But read what other readers have to wright .I hope this helps good luck
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