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male
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36-40,
*ndy00
writes:I keeping having dreams about my first love. I don't think about her nearly as much as I used to, but a part of her still clings on to me which I hate because all it does is cause upset and hurt. This dream was brought on because I have some details to send off to her hometown and I sent them off yesterday. This lead me to dream about driving 240 miles to her hometown and surprising her.The last time I checked (about 2 months ago) I noticed she is still in a relationship with a some she's been with for what must be 1 1/2 - 2 years, a fact which makes me feel so insignificant. I can't complain too much, I've had other girlfriends since her, but as my first love it's important to me that I do the same to her now and again. I'd like to think that she still thinks about me sometimes, in a positive light. But by now she's had a long-term relationship with a guy without long distance circumstances and it makes me feel like yesterdays news.I can deal with being yesterdays news as long as she is the same to me, but she obviously isn't, and since I'll never face speaking to her again I wish there was a way to make that happen. Why do I dream of her? The dreams don't come very often, but I never want to dream of her or even think about her anymore! (we broke up over 2 years ago, which is a longer time period than the time we were together!) Please advise me!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 The dreams don't mean anything. I think you're still having them because she's on your mind quite a but still after these 2 years. I used to have nightmares about my ex, and I think that was because of our nasty break-up and a part of me hadn't moved on. To end that chapter, think she is nothing to you and you are nothing to her, she no longer owns your heart she gave that up a long time ago, so stop letting her have a hold on your mind. You own your mind and are in charge of your life not her, take back your life. She's in the past stop trying to relinquish it.
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