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writes:Hi, a bit of advice please? Im 20 this year and Im in a happy 2 year relationship but recently I had a dream that I was kissing my sort of boss at work! And now I cant get him out of my head, I've always found him attractive but havent really thought of fancying him because he's my boss. He's 31 so not exactly old he is married and has very young children and I know he is happy. I think it is just a crush! but since not having had one since school I kinda hoped I had grown out of this sort of thing, I keep fantasizing about the two of us! Why have I just suddenly had these dreams and thoughts now and not before? Will this just fade? I hope so as I don't know what I would do if anything did happen! Still a part of me wants something to happen...
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I had a dream one time that my boss and I had sex. And I couldn't look him in the face for weeks after that.
I think it's normal you had the dream, but stop obsessing over it. It doesn't mean anything- it was just a dream. I've had some pretty crazy dreams and nothing has ever come out of them. I think the reason I had that dream was I spend a lot of time around him, and you tend to let people you spend a lot of time with float around in your subconscious, the part of your brain that makes you dream. Sex in dreams never signifies sex, it means something else, I don't know off the top of my head, but I'm sure you can look it up.
Yes, it will fade. I remember when I was younger I dreamed that my best guy friend and I were making out. I thought at the time it meant something more, and I kind of started having feelings for him, but after little while, it wore off and I realized it was just a dream.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (12 March 2008):
 I think you have rather answered your own question here. A part of you wants something to happen and that part of you is expressing itself in your dreams. As to why now I dont honestly know the answer to that, all I can guess is that something has happened to strengthen your desire, maybe a fleeting brushing of hands or something that may seem relatively minor at the time.
I dont think we ever grow out of our deires. Of course the question then is what we do about them and in this case the advice has to be do nothing...maybe try and channel your energies into your current relationship...spice things up again, try new things and see where that goes...
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