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writes:My bf (of two weeks) openly talks about he thinks girls who wear short skirts and so on are 'sluts', 'skanks' etc. He says that he has no respect for girls who put out with every guy they meet. He says girls who sleep with guys easily are hard to respect. He says he doesnt like girls like that and would never date a girl like that. However, despite him saying all that, on our second date, he wanted to have sex with me! I just dont understand how a guy can claim to have such values as described above, then want sex on the first date?Do you think all of what he was saying was just an act? Ive told him I want to wait to have sex until the relationship has developed more. But he keeps on insisting on it. He pretty much disregards my feelings of how sex is soemthing special to me. He thinks it cant be a big deal for me just because im not a virgin. But what he doesnt understand is i regret my first time and i dont wanna make the same mistake again, so im being even more careful. We are both 18 (nearly 19) years old. I kind of get the feeling from him that he has double standards. Alot of his mates sleep around, and he thinks they are 'cool' and he openly talks to them about 'how far' they have gone with girls in front of me. But when it comes to a girl who may sleep around, thats not acceptable in his opinion.Mind you, I dont sleep around, but im just confused about what his TRUE values are and what his true motives are and what he really wants from me. Sex and/or something more? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): ugh, can't stand men like this - pigs
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reader, Darren R  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 Rite ok, he talks about he dosent like girls who sleep around etc.... well maybe that is what he was usto befor he met u so he wants a change a girl that is respectfull in his eyes like you are, a girl that he has modeld in his head to be like. but when it acshaley comes down to it he dosent really. he wants you all for his self and wants you to know it. he talks about girls in this way so you understand his views about them so u then know how he fells about them and there for he gets peice of mind knowing that you know how he would react if you where like this. do u understand. i know its hard hunni but if he wants to sleep with you within the first month letalone the first date he is contradicting his self. if you did sleep with him and didnt make him wait he would have no respect for you just like the girls he describes to you. but if you make him wait and he sticks around then you have found your self a winner and hes truefull by sticking to his word. listen your only young ino its hard to see right now but you will find someone that will respect you for who you are and love you for it. DO NOT sleep with him trust me and do uno why you should why..... Cuz i usto be the same as that guy until i woke up and faced realitey and most of all took in other peoples feelings and now respect them take care hunni ino u will make the right decition. DARREN
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reader, Darren R +, writes (3 November 2008):
Rite ok, he talks about he dosent like girls who sleep around etc.... well maybe that is what he was usto befor he met u so he wants a change a girl that is respectfull in his eyes like you are, a girl that he has modeld in his head to be like. but when it acshaley comes down to it he dosent really. he wants you all for his self and wants you to know it. he talks about girls in this way so you understand his views about them so u then know how he fells about them and there for he gets peice of mind knowing that you know how he would react if you where like this. do u understand. i know its hard hunni but if he wants to sleep with you within the first month letalone the first date he is contradicting his self. if you did sleep with him and didnt make him wait he would have no respect for you just like the girls he describes to you. but if you make him wait and he sticks around then you have found your self a winner and hes truefull by sticking to his word. listen your only young ino its hard to see right now but you will find someone that will respect you for who you are and love you for it. DO NOT sleep with him trust me and do uno why you should why..... Cuz i usto be the same as that guy until i woke up and faced realitey and most of all took in other peoples feelings and now respect them take care hunni ino u will make the right decition. DARREN
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reader, Reebe +, writes (3 November 2008):
 Sounds like he wants it all!Yes he does have double standards!Don't sleep with him until your sure you can trust him and until you want too.He might just want to be like one of the boys?Make sure he treats you with respect and if he doesn't find someone who will.
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