Double life boyfriend

A female age 51-59, *ittle Serin writes:

I met a guy about 6 months ago. From the start he was everything i had ever wanted - treated me like a princess. Only downside is that I live in Kent and he lived in Derby, so quite a distance. After first having my doubts and the distance and whether or not he was telling truth about being single, things really got serious between us. He had told me that he had split from his long-term girlfriend (17 years) 11 months previous and she had since moved out. He told me that they still remained friends. We would see each other maybe every other weekend as he had to work away alot in different places, but we would be in touch constantly. Everything he told me was plausible. We have recently been on holiday together and whilst away his 'ex' texted him. I asked why she would be texting him and if he had texted her and he swore on his sons lives that he had not done anything. I stupidly believed him. That was two weeks ago. Since then we had been in touch constantly again. I called him last night as wanted to make sure he got home safe from work, and a woman answered his mobile. This woman was the so-called ex. She told me that she was nothing of the sort and that still lived together and had, in fact, been away a few weeks previous to when we had gone away. He had told me about this but had said he was going on a jolly boys outing - a cruise. In fact, this cruise was with her. They are in no way separated and still very much an item. I went on to tell her that he had told me he wanted to move down to Kent to be with me and my children and get married. I even sent her the texts he had sent saying this. I have not heard from him at all, not sure if I want to. Just feel so humiliated, used, cheated, abused and foolish for falling for all of this. Probably reading this you are thinking how on earth did I fall for it, but believe me, it is very easy to believe when you love someone so very much, and I truly gave this man my heart. I'm totally broken and can't even begin to know how to pick up my life. Please, if anyone had had this happen to them, or can just talk to someone, please contact me. Feeling so very vulnerable and low. Just need someone to talk to.

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