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writes:hi ok my problem is I'm Irish and I've started seeing a Polish guy who's living in Ireland. We work together and get along really well and he's the first person I've had real feelings for since I split with my ex 2 years ago.. I've kept it quiet so far but we're starting to see each other more and more it's going on about 7 months now and I'm crazy about him... I'm 25 he's 28The real problem is my family and co-workers...they claim not to be racist but I have 2 very over-protective brothers and also my dad is a good man but also old fashioned.I've told 3 or 4 of my friends and their reaction shocked me! They were so negative about it, like he wasn't good enough or something because he's a foreigner!!.. this p***ed me off a lot because they don't know him (if they got to know him they'd love him too) and they claim to be open-minded!?!I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this experience?? and if so how did u deal with it?I don't want to hide him from my family anymore but I'm afraid of their reaction if I tell them, I don't wanna lose him over this either! :(all opinions appreciated.. thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): yeah i have the same situation
im black and my boyfriends white
i dont think his parents will ever accpet that
but obviously sometimes tough decisions have to be made
if no one accepts him for the simple fact that hes forgein and they dont even give him a chance to show his personality that you love about him
it definitely not fair
like me and my boyfriend we make each other happy and i dunno its a touchy subject for everyone whos in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): well i can't tell you that i've been in the same case as yours, but i've been in a similar one,different religions and that is a really big thing to handle!my family had to face the truth that i love him!i talked to my mom first,and made her understand that nothing is going to keep me away from him!everyone tried to make me date someone else fought over and over again with friends..but finally they had to accept the fact that i love him and that i won't give him up just for them to be happy..they made it very difficult for me at first but sooner or later they had to adjust to the idea that i won't give him up for the world..
you can't keep on living your life like this, take a choice either lose him,or face them,i don't think you'll lose any of them because after all they're your family!
take care bye!
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