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writes:Ok here goes, I am an independent woman in her thirties, have had relationships in the past (long term) but have not been with anyone for a few years. I have a male friend who is a farmer, I am in a similar industry, who I have become really attached to even though he does not know it. He is fifty seven but I do not have a problem at all with the age gap.I want to let him know how I feel but don't know how to go about it. I am really shy when it comes to making any sort of move (i.e asking him for a drink) and it is currently driving me crazy not knowing how to approach this, I have never felt like this before and I don't want to lose our friendship or embarrass us both in any way. I think he likes me too but as its been so long I might be reading the signs incorrectly. Would like anyone's opinion on what to do, and also if anyone thinks that this would be a problem with his age, him being old fashioned and me making a move...Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): If you see signs that he is interested in you, I would go ahead and invite him to an outdoor activity, a fair, a bbq or something non threatening during the day where the two of you can spend some alone time getting to know each other even better....I bet you have good instincts about his attraction to you, he may be too much of a gentleman to approach you since you are quite a bit younger, and if he is a widower, he may have issues around that as well, he just needs a nudge, not a push.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Talk to him about it. Maybe you could just ask him if he feels there could be something more than friendship between you. I wouldn't worry about the woman making the first move thing - I think a lot of men worry about it more than we do...male pride and all that!
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reader, babymelons +, writes (14 August 2007):
Bet hes thinking the same thing. Ask him for a drink he'll be flattered. good luck hun
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