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writes:I really love my boyfriend and we've been together almost two years now. He's very close with his mother - he even slept in her bed with her until he was 11 or 12 - and I tease him that she's his "other girlfriend". Their relationship is very close but never seemed abnormal to me... I discovered that he had recently looked at a porn site, not uncommon OR a big deal, but he'd conducted a few searches for incest porn, specifically "mom and son". He also searched for old and mature porn. I'm really freaked out and I don't know how to talk to him about it but he can tell that something's bothering me. Is he a deviant? Is this normal? It seems so wrong and disgusting to me. I don't think that he honestly wants to have sex with his mother but I really don't know how to talk to him about this!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): I doubt it anything to worry about.
He probably just has older-woman fantasies as most men do. Just sit him down and tell him you foudn the searches and want to know if there is any underlying issues there then you should know about and that while you might find it distasteful, you will not pressure or condemn.
If he denies it is an issue, you can probably safely take him at his word. Just remind him to be a little more discreet about it in future because you don't want to have to find that again.
I myself am more into the older-woman/younger man or younger woman/older man porn. It's not like I'm actually going to go out and get a school girl to have sex witha teacher to satiate that. The porn fantasy is more than enough.
It's a weird and wonderful world out there, just try to keep an open mind. But at the same time, if it really bothers you then you need to be open with him about it.
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