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Don't get to see him enough and he's spending time with his ex! Should I tell him this bothers me?

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Question - (9 April 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 10 April 2008)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend is very busy. we've been dating 2 months, we only get to see each other two-three times a week, if that. It's been 4 days since I've seen him and he had last night off. BUT, he's trying to rebuild a 10year friendship with an ex. they went to dinner and a movie last night. He could have hung out with me but, they haven't seen each other in a while and it was the only time she was available. Then today, he cancelled his plans to hang out, I told him I'd see him after practice, he said he'd be free to hang out, but then said he was going to play soccer with his guy friends and would call me when he got done. Am I too 'available' to be pushed around like this. I'm trying not to be revengeful and blow him off and I'm worried that he may just not realize what he's doing.

Should I tell him that him hanging out with his ex (who still likes him) by doing dinner/movie makes me uncomfortable? I think him hanging with his guy friends is only making me more unwanted because of ex situation. I don't want to be that crazy girlfriend! but I feel that he doesn't value my time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Hi Hunny

I think any woman in a new relationship would feel uncomfortable with there new b/f if he were rebuilding a ten yr friendship with an ex partner who still cared for them, He took her to dinner and a movie!!!!The guy thing thays nothing hunny we all need some us time, But the ex stuff yea that would sting a little, It would put me off and make me run a mile..That me though, It just doesnt seem right how would he like it sweetheart, You can try and speak with him but I can only see him saying this is important to him or somthing along those lines, I just wouldnt bother Id let him get on with it. Alittle bit of attention is needed to keep anyone interested love...TAKE CARE OF YOU IF YOU NEED A CHAT MESSAGE ME WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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