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reader, visceralfemme  +, writes (12 September 2016):
heartbrokenhelper wrote: " the butch, "dominant" lesbian taking on the role of the male, and the femme, "submissive" lesbian taking on the role of the female. The butch takes care of house and car repairs, while the femme cooks, wears skirts and makeup, and does all the girly-girly stuff."Okay I just have to add my $10.00 in here as I am a submissive Femme and have been in this dynamic for so many years now tht I could probably write a book in both worlds; the BDSM D/s world and the LBGT+ world. Now let's talk about the Butch. The Butch can be dominant or submissive in the relationship. The Butch can identify as a Top a bottom or as a switch in the bedroom. Now okay here we go and this irritates me so much... a Butch can cook all the meals or some of the meals, the Butch can be a stay at home partner or spouse and do all the domestic work, they can be a seamstress, a gardener, a florist a hair stylist or any damn thing they choose to do, but someone says that they have to be the MAN because that is their role in the relationship.Then we have the Femme. There are FemmeDaddys who strapon cocks and fuck their lovers and partners in their relationships, there are FemmeDommes who crank out orders and expect to be worshipped in every way in their relationships, and there are submissiveFemmes who continuously say yes Sir anything you say Sir in the relationship. A Femme can be a Top or a bottom or she can when she feels the desire and want and has a strength more powerful than her Butch can "roll" her Butch.A Femme can slide out of bed in the morning and pull on a pair of tight jeans with the knees torn out and a hold wearing fast in the butt and slip on a dirty ripped tshirt and go outside and find her way to the backyard to her old beat up truck to do some mechanical work on it. A Femme might like to kick back with a beer on the weekend and scream at football on the TV and belch obscenities at the announcers. A Femme is not always about wearing pretty dressed and having long painted nails and perfectly coifed hair.... that is something seen in a magazine or that a reporter said somewhere. Someone was sadly mistaken.anonymous reader wrote: "Dominant takes on a more masculine role in the relationship or sex. Masculine is the only way I can describe it really, although the term is technically incorrect and misleading. The woman doesn't have to be masculine and she's obviously not a man. Neither do all men take the dominant role in relationships. But by traditional definition of a heterosexual relationship the man is dominant, so by saying they take on a masculine role only implies that. I suppose the best way of describing it is by saying the dominant femme is the one 'that wears the pants' in the relationship."This really irritates me!!Dominance and submission are not male nor female things. Dominance and submission are about energy and energy alone. You do not have to be a man to have a commanding energy and you do not need to be a woman to feel compelled to submit to that dominance.Dominant energy comes from a look, a tone of voice carried out by strength of dominance, the presence and attitude of the individual be they man or woman. Submissive energy can be just as strong and compelling as dominant energy and it is the other half of the dynamic that makes the D/s relationship. A submissive can pull at the dominant and control them just as much as the dominant can and does control the submissive, this is why the Dominant needs to always be in control of themselves. The dominant energy and presence would be so strong that it would compel the submissive to comply to the Dominant's will.So now the question was what is the difference between a dominant Femme and a submissive Femme?A dominant Femme would have strength and energy in her and would with her actions and everything about her inspire and compel her lover to comply to whatever she desired.a submissive Femme would be pulled in by the electricity and energy of her Dominant partner and would feel inspired and compelled to want to give her lover whatever they wanted and/or needed that was in her power to give.Now I really hope that answer was a good one.
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reader, heartbrokenhelper +, writes (7 November 2010):
 kay, so i myself am NOT a lesbian , but a dearhearted friend is so she is helping me awnser you question.. and so to awnser it being
the dominant one is the one who basically tells the other what positions and stuff, the submissive is obviously the one who just goes along with what the other girl says.
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Theoretically, there are two types of lesbians, based (a) on physical characteristics and (b)the roles usually played by partners in a relationship - the butch, "dominant" lesbian taking on the role of the male, and the femme, "submissive" lesbian taking on the role of the female. The butch takes care of house and car repairs, while the femme cooks, wears skirts and makeup, and does all the girly-girly stuff.
well hope this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Dominant takes on a more masculine role in the relationship or sex. Masculine is the only way I can describe it really, although the term is technically incorrect and misleading. The woman doesn't have to be masculine and she's obviously not a man. Neither do all men take the dominant role in relationships.
But by traditional definition of a heterosexual relationship the man is dominant, so by saying they take on a masculine role only implies that.
I suppose the best way of describing it is by saying the dominant femme is the one 'that wears the pants' in the relationship.
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