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*ichel
writes:Dear Friends,my bf has made all plans for him to go on holiday, without taking me into consideration at all, and YET he claims that he Loves me, and wants to be with me!I dont know if im exaggerating,but if i Do love and Care for Somebody, would certainly like to spend my holiday with... Im angry and more than.. Have spent 6/half months with him, One may say its not much time, but for a person as me who is not spending more than a month with man that its not worth,and just wants to spare some time in fun and games is more than i can bear.I sensed this before, but nevermind,the point is that he claimed that we can be together even if not, via skype, phone or such mechanical things as if i would like to live my life with robot not human! Im almost 26,graduating,working and would like to have my life settled down from parties and such things.I need certainly a man that will be with me, together,to go on in life... Should i consider him at all? Should i confront him directly, and tell him? Is it worth to spend a min with a man that has still not lived his life?Any opinion would be welcomed,Thanks
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reader, michel +, writes (17 October 2007):
michel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all for your answers. I really know what I want,but on the other hand i Loved him, and he gave me the immpression that He does too. I was in doubt,wheather i want to much from him after only 6 months, but i really do not think so.Today ,He bombarded me with a bunch of sms,telling me How he thought that ur relationship was more than physical... But i do not care for his words anymore! His right action of showing it would have been asking me to join him for the holiday, I do really pay off the credit for the flat i Took, and im quite short of money,so i Think he presumably thought that he should pay my ticket and the accomodation on one hand, and on the other he couldnt chase other girls when with me. Both taken into consideration,lead me to think that i have work with unlived Man yet, and a cheapstake moreover. The result is obvious, I decided to go on without him. Thank you again for all ur answers
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reader, samohir  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 MIchel You seem mature and your on the right track. You re completely in right, if he doesnt want to spend the holiday with you,than how should you take him seriously at all.
You may and surely will find someone better.
Best of luck
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reader, ladysuzanna  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 answer a trip alone for a month well six months is long enough to know how much you like someone and i would not even think of go on a trip without someone i care to spend ever moment with he should still be crazy in love with you well i guess you have a clear version of the future holes find someone who would not leave you behind when you could go with him or take it together good luck
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 hi Mitchel
After reading your letter it seems you know the answer yourself,he is selfish and does not consider you,or your feelings this not a good place to be as you have said, you are wanting to be in a settled relationship with some one who loves and cares for you, you are totally correct, i think you need to start a new life with some one who loves and adores you with all there heart,not some one who just jets off leaving you alone with out notice, why is he going without you if you are the love of his life,? i think you are more mature than he is, and you do deserve some one who will treat you with more respect and love, i would not bother with him any more just go out and find the love of your life he is waiting some ware out there just for you.
best wishes
good luck
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