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writes:Does weight matter to men? I am 5 feet 6.5 inches and i wear a size 15 pants. (i dont know what i weigh but i think i am about 180) So tell honestly do men care about weight? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Yes. Some like them light, some like them heavy, some like them in between.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): as a male I can tell you, on the whole, men are attracted more to thin girls than to fat girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): "A real man will want to spend time with any girl that wants to spend time with him, regardless of size."
Give me a friggin' break, guy. White knight much?
What if I like to spend my time biking, hiking, boarding, and working out? An overweight girl wouldn't be able to keep up, so an overweight girl isn't the girl for me.
I don't think that being overweight makes a woman a "bad" person, but I wouldn't date her. Why? If she's overweight (especially if she's seriously overweight), it tells me she doesn't care about her health, she doesn't lead a very active lifestyle, she doesn't care about eating healthy, etc. In other words, we wouldn't be compatible in the least. And on top of all that, I'm just plain and simple not physically attracted to heavy women.
OP, the question is completely subjective, but in reality, yes, most guys do care about weight. That doesn't mean you should go and turn yourself into a waif (most guys find bags of bones just as unattractive as bags of flab), but for the sake of your health, you should try to slim down.
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reader, joeblow6969 +, writes (2 October 2010):
Honestly? Yes. More to some than others of course. Important for everyone to stay fit,regardless of your weight. Get/stay fit and the weight will take take of itself. You'll feel better and others will notice too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Some men, the ones that sleep around and are actively on the prowl for a date, are idiots and have been blinded by social media. Other men can’t think for themselves so they only do what they think is acceptable in society, which unfortunately favours skinny models and the clean cut.
A real man will want to spend time with ANY girl that wants to spend time with him, regardless of size.
From spending time together is where love can be found.
I don’t think you should find a man that is into big girls, you don’t want a man with a fetish, you want a man that loves you for you. What it comes down to is personality, not size, and I think you have nothing to worry about.
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (2 October 2010):
 It does vary from guy to guy but on the hole I think physical appearance is more important to guys than girls. It's really shallow but we're hardwired to be that way. It is about the same as a girl finding a guy more attractive just because he has a lot of money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): To hell with what matters to men! No offense, guys.
Really, it sucks if you want to lose weight only if it matters to men. My partner is putting up half a pound every month and doesn't give a damn to what I feel. He just keeps on making plans. I am by nature health conscious and I am fit. Don't try to tone up for dating or to give anyone a voyeuristic pleasure. Slim down for health and to make yourself feel better.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (2 October 2010):
 Weight matters fore some. While some guys like their girls to be chubby, curvy, some others like them skinny or thin, the "ideal" model shape, those we see on the catwalk. It's a natural ability to make difference. It depends on the guy. Some of them don't even care about their girl's physical appearance, as long as they have a healthy relationship (sexually and emotionally). Some guys can be repulsed by the less thin girls because they associate it with a lack of self-esteem, which leads to lack of motivation aka laziness. For some, laziness means bad hygiene. No matter how you look, thin or fat, you always need to be clean, have a healthy life (sports, diet), be well-groomed, like you're always about to go out for a date or some important event. Be kind and NEVER lose your sense of humor and auto-criticism. Give importance to your person and to your body. If people don't like you, don't be desperate, it's their choice, it's not your fault nor your problem. You can't be on every one's liking. Best wishes!
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