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writes:ok. so i'm gonna start from the beginning because it's easier. this teacher started at my school, and i fancied him, i didn't say anything to him or anyone else because lets just say he's not the most attractive person going. so then when i finsished yr 11 (last year of school) i added him on a social networking site, and we got talking a lot. then one day he sent me a message saying to add him on msn. so i was like ok, and added him. on msn we had what i would call innapropriate discussions on topics such as male masturbation, his ex girlfriends, when he lost his virginity ect. which you know wouldn't have seemed like a problem If i hadn't gone back to my schools sixth form were occasionaly get him as a substitute. and now im stuck. i don't no wether or not these chats are allowed, like if it goes against the teacher student boundaries, and if they are why he isn't following them. i'm 16 he's mid 20's . the reason i thought it was against the boundaries is because he said 'i can't talk to you in school because i might say the wrong thing'. but i don't understand how he could say the wrong thing. and know it's like he is really paranoid because he wont talk in school unless know one is around. i dont fancy him any more, and because i dont i dont like his behaviour anymore, is it wrong what he has done or is doing? is it against boundaries. please help me!. why is it ok for him to want to talk to me on msn but not in school ect?!does he like me? should i be scared?xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): yeah!what he's doing is against the law (i think) it's groooooostell your parents or block him on msn! eeeeeeeeewwwww just thinking about what he's doing is giving me the heebyjeebies. *shudder*honest, this is really sick and i think you should do something.or just simply tell him that he shouldn't talk to you like this and to act appropriately (Spell that right?)x
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (10 October 2008):
 Sounds like he's overstepped a boundary somewhere. I wouldn't make too much of a fuss about it for the moment, it's not like he's actively coming onto you, he's just sharing too much information. Do like you'd do with anyone else in that situation and stop talking to him on MSN if it's weirding you out. He'll probably take the hint. If he doesn't and keeps on trying to talk to you, tell him that you think that it would be better to leave it at that, and remind him that you're his student. He will probably back off at that point, the message will be pretty clear and he will be scared of getting in trouble.If he really starts bothering you and getting too personal, then you need to talk to another teacher. But I don't think you're at that point yet. Just take a step back from him for the moment. He should cool off.
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