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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyoneRecently I got a text message from my ex boyfriends phone saying he was in a wreck and this was his cousin megan and she asked if i still dated him. I didnt answer because my phone was on silent and another one came in and it said well if you are he was in a wreck and all he kept saying was tell "my name" that I'm sorry so I'm just giving you the message. Well when I read that I said that I felt terrible for him and that we no longer date and she asked me what happened and I told her the story that I thought he was with another girl and she said no he cares about you alot I know that and the other girl wouldnt leave him alone. She said he would always say good things about me and that she knows how he dosent really show emotions but with me it was different. She told me he hasnt been awake for 36 hours. I told her to tell him I forgave him and she said that when he woke up she would have him text me and work it out. Well that was at 1am at 7am he texted me telling me how sorry he was and that being in the wreck made him realize how much I mean to him because if he died he would never have got the chance to see or talk to me again. I feel so bad, I want to believe him and I kno he was in a wreck because I used my friends phone to text him and his cousin said the person I was looking for is in the hospital due to a wreck so Its not like hes lying but do does this story sound believeable. I also feel so selfish because he said hed call and I waited but he didnt, I shouldnt expect that of him. What should I do, I'm scared to lose him!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Well, that doesn't sound very good. Your parents don't like him? Generally something's happened for that to be the case.
You don't have to tell them you've been talking to him. Just tell them that you heard a rumor that he'd been in a wreck and even though he's your ex, you'd still like to make sure he was okay. That sounds reasonable to me.
Or just call his parents yourself.
Think this through a bit. If he WAS in a real wreck and was unconscious for a day and a half, I kind of doubt that he'd be feeling well enough to text anyone, let alone talk much. That doesn't sound right.
It's perfectly reasonable to check to make sure he was okay with his parents. After all, even though he's your ex, you are still allowed to care what happens to him.
Say it IS true, you've expressed your concern, and this will get back to him. Nothing wrong with that.
Say it's NOT true, and he was lying, or someone's playing games, at least you'll know the truth, AND they'll know you're on to them.
I go back to why your parents don't like him and why they don't know you're talking to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy parents dont like him and dont know I'm talking to him so having them call would be out of the question.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 July 2008):
Hi, it all sounds a bit odd to me. Why don't you just call his parents, and ask them how he's doing. You can tell them that you heard he was in a wreck, and just wanted to be sure he was okay. Or get your parents to call his parents. That way, you'll find out for sure without any drama or doubt.
Take care and I hope everything turns out all right.
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