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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a tendency to want what I can't have and it's really frustrating. I can't seem to help it, even when I know it's happening. For the past 6 months I haven't been able to stop thinking about this guy I'm sort of in a long-distance relationship with. We fly back and forth to see each other every 2nd or 3rd weekend. But before I moved away and it became long distance, I was starting to feel smothered, particularly when he'd drop hints about falling for me. And now he's dropping hints about possibly moving here and although I've daydreamed about that from time to time, the idea of it happening is now freaking me out all over again. I keep thinking of all the problems of us being in a serious relationship, rather than the positives. Does this sound like a problem I should just get over or a sign I shouldn't be with this man (either because he's not right or I'm not ready for something serious right now)?
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (7 September 2009):
That sounds like me. I love a challenge, I love having to guess whether a guy likes me or not, when he tells me he does, its over. ALl the fun is gone. I feel like Ive got a man's brain in that case. Usually guys like to do the chasing, but i think we're the types who like to do it too. It could b that ur giving up something great if u cant handle it. U can b honest and tell him its going a little too fast for u and u'd like to slow down (that would b the best thing for u to do.) If u feel like u cant breathe, then yea, let him go. He's not the one for you. I think that having that love and him loving u is HARD to find. I like challenges but it makes me sad that i dont have a guy loving me. If u like him, and he loves u, thats great! u'll get there eventually if u tell him to just really slow it down. Good luck
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