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writes:I recently i have found that my ex-girlfriend who added her childhood friend on facebook two months because of that we got apart. recently I added my ex-girlfriend's childhood friend. i have been to his wall. in two days time he took that rendem quiz of faceback" Who is your next love?" and it turned out to to be my ex-girl friend. when i called my Ex- girlfriend she told me that it was damn quiz she had got nothing to do with that. please you guys help me that does it sound that my girlfriend cheated on me. ? because when we were together , she added him and it became a source of fight between us which ultimately took us to break up. she never added me on facebook , saying that her parents had her FB password and we had that relationship in hide from her parents. though she shared her FB password with me but im still confused about that while FB thing which destroyed our relationship. any help from u guys would be appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Hi
Of course she is not ready to forgive. You not only accused her of cheating on you, but you also made her feel totally small and inconsequential.
Learn your lesson. Don't get carried away over anything, now. Relationships require an amazing level of maturity and if you want it to last, you will have to force yourself to grow up or lose the person you love!
What did you expect, that you will say a simple "sorry" and she will come rushing into your arms??? You are a little too old to believe in fairy tales! Now, prove her with your actions that you truly are sorry and that you were an absolute jerk and this might take time, and she still might choose to never forgive you!!
SO, the only thing that you can do is fix this situation, if you want her back or just accept her decision (can't say that I blame her, imagine being dumped for something this stupid). Otherwise move on! And please, next time don't accuse any girl of cheating (it is a very serious accusation) until you have ample proof.
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reader, NoLvLck  +, writes (14 October 2009):
Here's my take for the whole scenario. If she can not let go with her conviction to keep the ex or whoever's pic from her FB and would rather choose to break up with you instead of giving in to your uneasiness and removes this person's pic from her FB or so you won't feel insecure has to add yours too in hers but like what happened she'd rather break up with you which if you think about it there maybe more than what the whole story is all about. Delete the person's pic or add yours in her FB or else it's Break Up! Can you see how ridiculous this is? The irony is that the person's pic as the source that started this relationship to fall apart may not even have a single clue he is at the center of it all. Imagine the ego if he finds out.
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reader, NoLvLck +, writes (14 October 2009):
Do you have a way of knowing if they are together now? Or have gotten closer since the break up? If the answer is yes! Then she may as well cheated or if not it was still leading that way so then your question becomes irrelevant as was inevitable. But if she had not any of those 2 questions then you might have overblown the fight because I'm assuming you started the questioning not really happy with her answers for your righteous and justified inquiries being the bf at that time. Jealousy is a difficult thing to carry in your chest, consuming all good natured behavior you have in you. Usually starts to surface beginning with suspicions but how to deal with all those emotions associated with relationships is another subject matter. But if you are able to answer those 2 key situations will answer your suspicions. But then again I'm not an expert. Just an ordinary guy whose had similar if not the same scenarios before. In any case, try not to get fixated with the door that closed on you because if you would just turn around you will find a number of open doors eager to welcome you.
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reader, Zahir_is_burning +, writes (14 October 2009):
Zahir_is_burning is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes i got carried away a little. but she's not ready to forgive. dont know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Hi
Hey, I agree with Satindesire. Also, I think that you might have trust issues. It is the twentyfirst century, that was just a damn quiz and really... I took a quiz that was titled "Which Monkey are You?" And the result said that I was a chimpanzee. Well,I haven't started eating lice you know!
So, really, stop burning and start being friends with her. Perhaps the real reason why she did not add you to FB is exactly what she is saying. You see, I go on rides with my friends and cousins late at night, but when I am out with my boyfriend, (even though only I know that I am out with my bf), I make it a point to return home early! So, you see, there really is no reason for you to worry at all.
Take Care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): hello, its a quiz. people take thousands of quizzes per day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): OF COURSE NOT FOOL. Those facebook quizzes are COMPLETELY RANDOM ,how dare you accuse her of cheating from some quiz that she didn't even take!
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