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writes:Hello to all the lovely Cupids out there! So, here is my situation: I'm getting married in October to a guy I love deeply. He lives abroad (2hr plane ride) and neither of us can move for different reasons (don't want to bother you with details, but he will be back to where I live in 4/5 years. In the meantime, I will be able to spend 6 months non stop working in my hometown and the another 6 months nonstop at his place abroad so, basically, it's gonna be sept-feb I'll be home and march-august I'll be with him- plus 2weeks over Xmas and he'll be able to come home about 1/2 weeks every months in the 6months when I won't be at his place.Do you think this marriage makes sense? My dad says I'm signing up for failure and I'll end up alone. I think 6 months a year together non-stop is good and I feel blessed I can afford to do that. Thing is, I've seen so many marriages fail and fall apart, I wonder if I should really follow my heart and marry this awesome man even though I know I'll only be with him 6months non stop for the next few years (plus a few weeks here and there during the rest of the year). Hope it's not too confusing and thank you in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 You are in your 30s
you've known him since high school
you're together a year
what happened between high school and a year ago?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (25 April 2012):
Listen to your father. Marriages are difficult enough when someone is around 24/7.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've known him since high school and we've been together for a year. Yes, we have spent time together, I'm living with him at the moment (6months together part of the year) and it's actually going great. And yes, you're right... this is home!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 April 2012):
Several concerns..
have you two ever done day to day as a relationship?
You refer to being home as when you are NOT with your partner... to me HOME is where my partner is..
we just did a year LDR and could NOT wait to be together full time... we were a 2 hour car drive apart and saw each other every weekend.
what's the reason for the rush to the marriage?
we have friends who are 2 hours apart by car now... they got engaged last weekend... and he won't be able to move to be with her for 3 years so they are not planning the marriage till then.
LDRs are doable but they are very very very hard...
how long have you known this awesome man?
have you ever spent any length of time together in the same place?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 If you and your partner can commit to seeing each other for 6 months only, then why not?
only you both know what it is you can handle.
It will be a failure if you dont end up meeting or grow apart during that time.
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