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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Does this man fancy me or just see me as a friend?We worked together - only for 6 months but just clicked and got on really well and had to spend a lot of time just the 2 of us - both single (me divorced 5 yrs - him never married),both similar age (early 40s.Some people find him difficult as I think he has concentration problems and is very fidgety and uncordinated. He is lacking in confidence and isnt good at taking any compliments.He is a really lovely person though - trained as a nurse and always worked caring for people. We used to have lunch and coffee together all the time. we no longer work together as I got a new job - same company new office.He isnt gay but hasnt mentioned any past girlfriend, but does have lots of female friends (all are married). We have kept in almost daily contact since I finished working with him, either texts or emails, both of us contacting the other. Sometimes he just texts or emails to ask me something and nothing. I have met his parents - he live with them. He tells me everything he is doing - eg his emails tell me where he went at the weekend and what he did there. We arranged to meet up last night - he arranged it all and we went to a lovely country pub. Had dinner and chatted for about 6 hours!!I assumed we would go halfs as we got a round of drinks each but he went and sorted out the bill - we always used to take it in turns for lunch/ coffee. We just get on so well. He is always really happy and smiles all the time. When left we had our usual hug. Both drove seperately and as I was going home got a text to say thanks for a lovely evening+ it was my turn to pick where we went for the next one. I dont know if he flirts or not as with him its hard to tell. Has anyone got advice on how I can tell if he wants more than friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): It is my question - It is great that a guy has given his point of view - thanks so for taking time to do that. To be honest I only added the info that he hadnt been married as a bit of an after thought, maybe thats the difference between getting a male point of view......so its interesting you picked that up as major info!!
Yes I definitely do want more than friends and in the past have usually found it relatively easy to tell if a guy fancies me - but find it really hard to tell with this one. I dont want to mess things up and ruin our friendship as we get on so well.
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reader, guywithlove  +, writes (18 July 2009):
well...the point here is he has never been married and if he never mentioned abd past girlfriends...there might be a possibility that he never had one...so deep inside he would be scared to come upfront and say what he wants from you...u have experience so it would be good if u could try to talk into it and ask if he likes u and wanna be more than a friend...do u want it too? i guess yes thats why u r posting here...:)....so give it a shot...it may workout for both of u...
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