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writes:WOW. It's finally happened for me and my man.At last we have connected.He final found away through.Here is how it happened.He told me he could no longer continue in the realtionship because I had no heart to give.We had a massive row but eventually calmed down enough for us to talk together.He had issues that every disagreement we had together involved more than the two of us, because I always ran off to talk to my best friend about my problems.This meant that when I came back to continue, I had all the bias of her problems too.So now rather than us each sitting down and using our own resources and the problem reaching it's conclusion.We were actually making it more difficult.And the more I seeked advice from others the more difficult the solution became. Now my friends have changed towards me and instead of being happy they have turned against me saying I am being brainwashed.But this can't be because its a one on one debate all the time.Now I see my man in a totally different light.No wonder he was ready to leave.I had given my heart to another woman, my best friend.I just felt the need to pass this on as I thought it could help others and save a lot of pain.Does it make sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): eh course your problems are between the two of you and nobody else should be involved but sometimes it helps to talk things over with an outsider, that said you should be listening to their perspective and making your own conclusion not going back to your partner with all your friends arguments.
B wary of only listening to him, sometimes outsiders give the best advice but if your friends are completely biased and are not giving fair advice i dont see why you would go to them in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): You've hit it on the head, as they say here in the States. This is exactly what needs to happen between a husband and wife, otherwise, the relationship is bound to fail. There are only two of you in this relationship, and you make it whatever you both want it to be. Yes, the jilted friends will be jealous, but in time, they either will, or will not, come around and realize that they cannot poison your mind with their opinions and beliefs anymore. Only two of you are in that bed.....
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