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writes:Hello;so I'm torn literally down to my nerves. So there is this guy I've known for a year and a month, and he's graced me with my first kiss. Anyway, since about April, he got a girlfriend, which I found out about due to one of our friends posting a picture of him at prom with another girl, which he told me that he was not going to. Anyway to make a long story short, he told me he droppe her, but he never really did. We stopped talking and he comes back three weeks telling me he is in love with me (I told him three weeks prior to the time we stopped talking he told me he didn't feel the same way) anyway he apologized and I in a way took him back. Now I feel like I'm falling out of love with him. I still get the feeling in my stomach when he comes over to tutor me, but I'm not sure if he's still with him girlfriend becase I know they are having problems an he's sure they aren't going to stay together much longer. How do I ask if he's falling out of love with me too because it seems like I'm "cockblocking" him all the time because of his girlfriend and because I'm completely still nervous around him because I don't see him as often due to us both going to two different schools. Does it also make me a "homewrecker" because I know he has a girlfriend and I sometimes tell him that I love him? And that I have done things ( I haven't had sex with him but I have sent him some pictures) I know I could just simply ask him but I don't want to make it seem like I doubt him. Advice really helps, although I'm kind of sure of the answers I'm going to recieve. Thank you in advance and have a good day.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Nope I was in your situation, if you stay in it you end up getting hurt. Sometimes hurt beyond repair. The pros and cons list is staring you right back in the face can't argue with that. Get yourself a new tutor.
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reader, BeautifullyBroken1192 +, writes (11 September 2010):
BeautifullyBroken1192 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not really sure if this makes any of a difference to your posts but I didn't mention that about eight months into me knowing the guy he let know me that he was in love with me. And at that time I believed he had a girlfriend. I'm not really sure.
And to celisse, today and last night I wrote out my pro and cons list, Being completely honest and not having to think about any of them, the pros out won the cons with eighteen to eight. And now he tutors me every week on wednesday, so I'm not really sure how I would be able to stop talking to him. Maybe I should just tell him how I'm feeling the next time he's over? Or should I just give him the cold shoulder after tutoring?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 September 2010):
Oh this situation never turns out good. No, you're not a homewrecker that's only if the guy is married to her and has a family. All you are is the other girl, which you don't wan't to be. I've been where you are, it sucks because the guy is going back and forth between you and her trying to have it all only to be caught up in his lies. He's not going to leave her, he may a few times but will just get right back together again with her. Of course he wants to have sex with you, you're his side item. Don't have sex with him, he's not worth it..he's only after you because of what's lacking in his relationship. Even if you get with this guy he is not trustworthy and has already proven so, you can never trust him. Yeah, he tells you he loves you way after the fact you said it, well if he loves you so much then why hasn't he dumped his girlfriend like he said he was going to do? Get out of this love triangle asap, I can already tell you he will continue to juggle you and her as long as he can. You will continue to be confused by his actions, he tells you everything you want to hear, and possibly mess around with him. Then, it's to the point where you're feelings are way into it and you can't get out..Know who walks away hurt and wreck from all this? You. Avoid it while you still can before you get in too deep!
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reader, celisse +, writes (10 September 2010):
personally i think you should just stop seeing this guy especially if he has a gf that just makes everything more complicated, and if you feel like your falling out of love then make a list of everything you like about him then make a list of what you dont... whichever one is longer thats the one you go with, answer with your heart and you will get what you really want
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