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writes:ah! I'm a little startled and don't know what to make out of a situation..I have this friend I used to work with, it was through a yearlong program where we basically lived together. he always made himself into this ladies man (although I don't think he had much action while we were working together, for a year). There was some attraction there I think but it was never acted on. On and off I had trouble with my boyfriend; near the end of our year, he said I was welcome to come crash with him, or live with him for a while, if things ddn't work out with my boyfriend (cause I was going to move immediately to live with my boyfriend so otherwise i'd be somewhat homeless although I could have returned home). I wasn't really going to take him up on it cause I didn't know what to make of the proposition as I could see that gesture as one that could go either way, in terms of friendship or more. But it worked out with my boyfriend, and he and I are living together now. The guy I worked with and I are still friends, I visited him over a roadtrip and we also returned to our old work place on a separate trip. My boyfriend is fine with our friendship and especially since there's been a time gap from when we were working together i see better that there's nothing really there at this point that my bf would have to be worried about. Now he's taken a job in a different country so I'm probably not going to see him for several years. I sent him an email updating him on what i was up to and he sent one back to me and signed it 'love'. And now I'm kind of thrown off, startled, don't know how to react. Should I not write back anytime soon? Should I ignore it? I really don't want to be confrontational and scold him for it or whatnot. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): yeah that kinda happend to me
i have a bf - we've been going out for three months and known each other for five
my friend ive known for about a year now - last week while talking to him , he goes to me ' i love you'
it was kinda awkward for me and he realised this and said sorry ignore that
obv i couldnt just ignore it - but he's recently been implying that he really likes me
but things are going good with my bf and my friend realised i wasnt comfortable with it so he hadnt mentioned that to me again which is good for me!
i suggest you should ignore it or say your not comfortable with it - if thats the case - and he should understand.
i know this isnt the most helpful thing but still hope it helps!xx
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