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writes:Before my boyfriend and I started dating, he told me the longest time he had sex for was several hours. I have a few other friends who have had sex for a similar length of time as well. For my boyfriend and I, our sex lasts for about ten minutes. So im wondering if the length of sex determines how "good" it is. If a guy is really, really enjoying sex with a partner, can he somehow delay ejaculation to make it last longer? Or does shorter sex means its good sex? I've had people tell me the length of time a guy can last depends on the person, but my boyfriend is obviously capable of going at it all night with some girl, but can only last ten minutes with me. Im just being a jealous girlfriend, and I think i'd feel better if someone could shed some light.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much guys, this helped a ton. I feel much better. I suffer from retroactive jealousy which apparently is a form of OCD and I worry over things that generally shouldn't matter. But all of the advice genuinely helped me feel better.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Sex play for shorter or longer time is one amongst many aspect of good sex. But, how one will see many aspect? I am suggesting some simple and easy way to view quality of sex life.
What is the cause of sex pleasure? Certainly there may exist only 'one' cause that determine the quality of sex pleasure, and one is free to decide to expand the pleasure for shorter to longer time, with leading quality aspect also. Orgasm is height of pleasure or excitement, and it is up to one's own will, to control it.
Well, the cause of sex pleasure lay in male's 'semen'. The reply of 'A female reader, KeighleySky ' is most relevant, which she quote from her own experience. If there are more ejaculation, than one can make penetration for longer time, by at the cost of losing quality. No or less ejaculation in just one week time, then it causes higher excitement and higher pleasure also. A simple touch has power to enjoy orgasm, even without intercourse also. Anyone, who care to observe, can see the fact.
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Longer sex is good but very tiring. To be honest it makes me feel amazing when me and my guy haven't seen each other in a few days and when we first have sex and he tries to last longer but can't and just explodes, i find it an incredible turn on. It seems he cant last long eith you because your such a turn on to him. And have you ever considered that maybe he was making himself look better when he said that he'd made sex last for hours?Good luck darlin' x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): The length of time doesn't determine the quality of sex, YOU determine it. So, are you satisfied with your sex life? Spice it up a little if not.
It's not healthy to compare yourself with former girlfriends, and ponder too much over it. Insecurity can break down a relationship. I'm guessing he had multiple erections during several hours, good, that may be feel great but is often tiring and he might prefer a shorter but more intense sex session. You can compensate with an extended foreplay and postplay.
As for delaying orgasms, read about tantric sex. Some say delaying TOO much can be annoying but you can experience and see what you like. Experiencing can be fun!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Generally the longer you're turned on for, the more intense the orgasm. That's not always true though. And maybe he can't last as long with you because you're better in bed than she was! Could be a good thing. It's quite the opposite of the guy choosing to delay orgasm cause he's enjoying himself. It's not very easy to control. If you want it to last longer, have him stop when he gets close and please you for awhile. Yes, shorter sex generally means it's better for him. Have him focus on you more for foreplay and during the sex.
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