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writes:So I have been hanging out with this girl for the better part of five months. Originally we were just friends but over the last month or so we became much more frequent in our meetings and conversations. Let me clarify that I am 29 and the girl in question is 22 so she is quite a deal younger. I care about her... no I don't love her... but I certainly like her more than just friends. I have told her this and remarked that I cannot be a good friend as I, due to my emotional attachment to her am prone to jealousy if she dates other guys. Her response to my assertions has been that she likes me..., as a friend, and she's sorry and wants to know what she can do for me. I keep telling her that I'm not blaming her it's just that I have feelings for her and I probably cannot be a good friend to her. To which she candidly replied that I am an asshole for not even trying. So my question is does she understand where I'm coming from and that I'm concerned about things becoming awkward because of my feelings? Why is she so insistent on my trying to hold on to our friendship and ignore my feelings? I don't know what to do?
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 I'm sorry but I don't think she feels the same way. If she did she would have told you at the time. When a friend wants to be more than a friend, it can get awkward if they persevere too much. The best thing you can do is settle for being just friends with her, and if she changes her mind she knows how you feel, so I'm sure she'll let you know. Til then, don't try to be more than a friend or it could push her away because she'll feel awkward having to keep refusing you. I am sorry, but try to move on to someone else. xx
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