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writes:i have been with my girlfreind 6.5 years, we were planning to live together, now out of the blue she says she is just not happy, talked about feelings but she is reluctant to be openand just says she dont know whether we should split, this has dragged on for two weeks and i dont know how to read it . its hard to sleep work or eat. is she wanting to split but cant say, and wants me to finish it,, or should i give here more time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): leave her; there are better women out there who will gladly commit for long term and cherish your company.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (12 May 2010):
 Maybe since you two moved in together the things changed and became a routine. If you fell in a routine get out of it and see if this works.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (12 May 2010):
 This is a very bad sign. It is interesting that her loss of interest in you, coincides with your finally making the commitment to live together. The honeymoon is over, the rush of new love has faded. Now that she has accomplished all her goals, You are not exciting anymore.
This is a trap that many women fall into. Eventually it leads to cheating and heartbreak. Some people just are not satisfied with a long term quiet relationship. They want thrills and butterflies everyday.
I really don't know what to tell you to do. The path she is headed for is not going to make her happy long term. Perhaps if you heat it up some she will stay longer. It would be better if she could learn the value of long term relations.
FA
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 May 2010):
You have a choice here and it's impossible for us to pick for you without knowing her.
1. Give her time and a bit of space. Buy her flowers and be wonderful without smothering her or pressuring her.... then cross your fingers.
OR
2. Force her hand. Tell her that you can't live with not knowing and you'll move out. If she changes her mind then she can get in touch, but other than that, ask her to leave you alone. Head off and sleep on a friend's sofa for a week and let her miss you. Cross your fingers that she realises she's made a mistake and calls.
God Luck!! xx
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