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writes:my question is what can i do when my girlfriend seems to always be in a bad mood i have tried to help her with her problems by comfertng her the best way i can but she always seems to find something woring with the way that i confert her and from time to time seem to always meet some ramdome guy i dont know how we are like always together but her friends use her pone at work to text people but she seem to talk to guys she meets some how and talk about her problems for comfert i feeel like i never do anything right i try and try and try but it seems like is always good enought she nevers comes and talks to me about stuff i always have to come to her to get out of her. and when is me that is having a bad day or i dont feeel good or have alot in my mind no matter what time of the day it is she never seem to even bother to eventalk to me about it like one night i had alot in my mind and i needed someone to talk to and i turn to her i always to and she just brushes it off to the the side by always saying im tired will talk tommorow or just act like theres nothing wrong. i feel like she dosent feel the same way about me she use to talk to me about anythig lithen to me and know she more mean more agresive and always tired and always gething on to me about things in the pass or becouse i want to spend time with her like lay next to her cuddle or try to have a little hummer with jokes or mess with her but she seeem to always get mad or be to stuck to the tv to even give me some of her time i work im a good man i help her out take her out never cheated im generous and i go out my way just for her and we have break up or we have had in teh past she seem to find a guy emedietely sometimes she gets in this mood were she dont know what she wants and she cheated on me with some guy she meet at the club and she never seeem to want to have sex but she seems to not have a problem when she is out with her friends....sorry to write so much i just have alot in my mind and hoping to get some feed back............ and another things that bothers me my girlfriend seems to always when she is about to go out or hang out with her girls she always wears something sexy or something that looks very atttractive or loooks realy gooood she did when we first got together for a few months know she wont she does but she goes all out when she is with her friends...
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reader, Moonknight  +, writes (18 September 2010):
 i'm glad it helped your relationship, and hope that things only get better from now on :- )
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reader, laz89 +, writes (16 September 2010):
laz89 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTy very much for the tip it realy help alot seriously were gething along much better less fights she seems to have made a turnd around ty very much.
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reader, Moonknight +, writes (6 September 2010):
When an adult acts towards a lover or friend with such dislike and anger it reflects resentment, or hate. Something has happened that has made her have dislike for you.
Trying to be a good friend will only hurt her more and irritates the situation more. You need to find the cause of the problem, direct communication is not wise for you i would personally say.
This may be harsh but i believe it will help you, Being too kind, nice or understanding to her could be making you appear as weak, weakness is an extreme turn off for women when it comes to men, the fact that you may be trying to sort it out is making it worse.
I think you need to stop the nice guy attitude right away, stop giving her the "i care about you" talks and man up. Show her that you are not weak and can handle her problems just as much as yours, DO NOT fold into the jealous whiney boyfriend type whatever you do.
This will not help you believe me. Now don't get me wrong here, i am not saying you should go abuse your girlfriend to be a hard man, that is not what i am saying at all.
Now you need to understand that has a woman she needs to feel attractive, it will make her feel better about her self, also being a woman she will always make an effort to look good whenever going out, she is not singling you out and she is not going to look like a tramp around her friend.
Therefore ignore the fact that she makes an effort to look good when out with her girls, that doesn't mean she's doing it for other men, it means she is doing it for her self. so stand firm, you may come off as being acting like an ass to her friends, but they wont understand, she will though and she will note the changes and question you about it while talking about her own problems with you.
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