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30-35,
*enovalewis
writes: I like this girl for 3 months and she seems she's interested in me. She asks me about homework a lot and most of the times, she wants to be my partner. I know that Im not the smart one but yeah, Im kinda good about studying. We talk more and more. She gives me her numbers and we start to text each other. She smiles at me, touches my arm, all kind of the body language. In the beginning, she seems kinda shy when she talks to me. She doesnt know how to keep the convo. After that, i text her more, and i even call her for a chat. She is comfortable with me. One time when we talk, i ask her does she have bf. She said yes. It's now a long distant relationship, 2 yrs together with her bf. It makes her now tired but she doenst want to give up. They have 2 yrs together. So last week, i ask her out as a 1st date (just a walk at night time bcuz i just have a hard time with my life), she says she can go at day time bcuz her bf doesnt want her outside at night. I feel very sad and i wouldnt text her much as i did. I say that it's ok, and im fine with it. I also say sry if i bother her too much. Two days later, she texts me 1st and say that "Dont mad at me", and ask me hang out for studying. I say yes and i go to her place for a afternoon. This week, we have final exams and she wants me to sit next to her and help her to pass the courses. After the exams, her friend said to me that do not help her. She always cheats. But it's not a big deal for me. The big thing pop in my head is " So, does she cheat on her bf to go with me, or she just using me to help her personal stuffs". So, this weekend, she will come back her hometown for a 2 weeks holiday and will bring her mom to here. Bcuz i want to ask her out for this weekend and now im stuck. I text her that i will cry (jk). She texts me back :" Dont cry my friend, even my mom will come here but my dad and my bf are in china.so...understand me? ok? " That is what she texts. So, what is she doing? Likes me or what ?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Don't take the bait. You may get into a situation where you will find it hard to extradite yourself from.
Stay your distance and don't get too involved with her, She has a b/f. You would be asking for trouble.
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reader, jenovalewis +, writes (14 April 2010):
jenovalewis is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe seems she really like me, very fliry. Even she said to me that," Text me tonight". When i say i will call her, she even gives me some hints to lead me to her. I dont know she's playing with me or not. She can use the hw as an excuse to talk to me or it can be she uses me. I dont know. Should i give up and move on ?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 April 2010):
She has a b/f and you can only be her best or close friend to her.
She could be using you as a temporary replacement for her LDR b/f. When her b/f comes back, you will be kicked to the kerb.
If you are expecting something to come out of this, you will be disappointed.
There is a possibility that she may fall for you if she gets tired of her b/f or something happens in that relationship.This is only speculations as nobody knows what will happen in the future.
You have the feeling that you are only second best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): You are her friend.
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reader, arielthh  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 I am confused after reading your story. Based on what I can understand, I think she just considers you a friend, maybe a close one but no more than that. In the time to come, if you two hang out together more often, I think there are chances that she will get to know you better and fall for you. However, this is just an outsider's point of view. Why not asking the main character directly?
Good luck !
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